Letting my Dd, 4 try Baileys

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I was in the kitchen earlier, Dh had opened the Baileys and taken in a small glass. I was getting dinner ready and heard Dd,4, asking what it was, he said it was like coffee but alcohol and only grown ups were allowed..ok fair enough.
I finished washing up, then heard Dd saying she didn’t want to try any, I shouted into the living room ‘Try what?’ and she said ‘Daddy’s drink’ so I said that no she mustn’t drink that, Dh said it was only a bit on his finger for her to see
Why? What’s the point, she didn’t want any, but he would have given her some 🤷🏻‍♀️
Aibu to feel pissed off about it

Good grief woman, lighten up. It wasn't exactly crime of the century now was it?

I’ve done similar. Meh, doubt they’re going to develop alcoholism on the back of a sip of Bailey’s. (Disgusting though it is)

@PaleGreenFrontDoor But what’s the point? Why let her try alcohol at 4? I don’t know, it really bothered me…perhaps I am uptight

Strange thing to do, especially as she didn't want any.

I'd be bothered by that too as she didn't actually want any

I don't know about pissed off. It's not something I would do and if my partner did, I would probably just tell him it wasn't something I was comfortable with and not to do it again and end of story. I think it was quite normal at one point in time to do this. It depends how your husband was raised himself, was this allowed when he was growing up?

I have a 9 year old daughter and my best friend has an 11 year old son. I was at her house a few months ago and me and my daughter were staying over. I know she's let her son have a sip of beer before. I was in the kitchen and she was in the living room with my daughter and her son and I heard her say to my daughter, 'you can have a tiny sip, loridee is that okay?' I came through from the kitchen and saw my friend was speaking about my daughter having a sip of fruit cider. I said, 'oh no definitely not' and she said, 'okay, sorry' and we never discussed it again and all was fine. I wasn't pissed off though.

But then again my daughters not 4.

It’s illegal to give alcohol to under fives.

If a 4 year old doesn't want something they won't have it. Honestly don't spend time being bothered about this. Obviously it's one of those things where people don't always agree I'd probably ask dh to not do it again because it's pretty silly. I wouldn't be angry though.

My ex sent me.a picture of him letting our 6 year old try some earlier tonight, as in DD had the glass and taking a drink. He knows I dont like it and I'm quite pissed off about it so I agree with you op

my MIL and FIL kept doing this with my 1 year old last year. I was really annoyed about it as they deliberately did it when I wasn't in the room. They say things like oh she's a bit uptight etc but my mum was an alcoholic so maybe it's triggering for me but I don't see what anyone would gain from giving a baby, 4 yr old, 10 yr old or any child for that matter alcohol

I give my 3 yo a tsp of brandy for bad coughs. 👀

I'd let my 14 year old try Baileys. Not my 4 year old though

Yanbu. I wouldn't like that either.

Meh, my grandma used to give my mum brandy when she was a baby to help her sleep when she was ill. My mum turned out fine. I remember occasionally having a sip or two of Malibu and pineapple from my mum’s glass from the age of about 5. I too am fine.

I purposely tired to drink my parents friends beer at four 😅
I apparently gave him the puppy eyes and they warned him not to pick me up.

He picked me up.

I then made a bee line for the beer on the meter cupboard behind him.

I'm not and never have been a heavy drinker.

Yabu
hth

Fond memories of mum letting me have the tiniest sip of Cinzano or Snowballs on Christmas Day. I rarely drink as an adult.
I couldn’t be overly bothered with offering her a sip.

It’s not a big deal. And he’s her parent as much as you. So..

I'd be fuming. X

Why?

And why would anyone push a child to drink alcohol like the OP's husband? What's next? Tiny bump of coke? Quick drive of the car?

I mean what is the point other than to show what a pathetic edgelord you are?

Outrageous!!

Does it work????

Not Baileys. Tastes a bit too much like ice cream, and has a screw cap doesn't it? You do not want a 4 yr old getting clever ideas with the Baileys bottle if someone accidentally leaves it in reach.

What is wrong with people?
Alcohol and growing bodies and brains don't belong together.
There's something about getting kids to try alcohol that is weird and deliberately fuzzing boundaries. If OP's DP had been smoking, or even vaping, I doubt he would have thought it such a good idea to let DD have a try if she asked what he was doing. I also doubt he'd persist in offering her something else to try, more neutral, if she clearly expressed she didn't want to try it; cooking oil or a stock cube, for instance, after she'd initially asked what it was.
I have memories of being really little, during family gatherings in my childhood home, asking to try beer or wine from someone's glass, being allowed a tiny sip, shuddering because it tasted awful, the adults all laughing indulgently and cooing over how funny and cute I was. I loved the attention and consequently asked every time. Looking back the vibe felt really odd.
My DP let DC1 try a sip of beer when a similar age to your DD. I was so disappointed. I don't aspire for my kids to have alcohol feature in any kind of 'special' way in their lives. Life without alcohol or any other substances is wondrous and awesome and, to me, in every way more interesting, vibrant and dynamic than when those things are present. Ditto other people.

Definitely not Bailey's or anything sweet! I remember my parents letting me have a sip of wine or beer on special occasions from about 8 or 9. Hated it. Around 14 or so I got allowed 0.5% peach wine then got to try sherry and port from around 16. Generally had a sip and didn't like it.

I'm now 40 and have been properly drunk on around 5 or 6 occasions at most, had the odd pint at university but got drunk about twice - and not at all until I was 20.

Easy to say, no, don't like it about drinks if you've tried it. In hindsight I suspect my parents got out the robust reds and dry whites when it was time for me to try - and sweet booze definitely wasn't available. Kids with stricter parents were getting drunk from much younger than I was ...

My child had sherry in trifle from when he was little, didn't eat much of it

Sure I might be annoyed a little but I would let it go

“Pathetic edgelord” 😆😆😆 You lost the argument then.