To think it's common decency to tell people you've had a stomach bug BEFORE they come for dinner?

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We went to a family members house for dinner yesterday. While we were there, they said they were only just able to eat again that day as they had been throwing up 2 days prior and their DC was the same 2 days before that. I was angry that they hadn't thought to mention it before we came over and we left quite quickly after that.

Now it's Christmas Eve, my 5yo DD has been sick 9 times in the past 2.5hours and if my stomach pain is anything to go by I feel like I'll be following shortly. We were meant to be hosting tomorrow but can't exactly do that now. I lost it at family member because we obviously wouldn't have come if we knew they were sick. I know it wasn't malicious but I can't help being angry that they're feeling all better just in time for Christmas and ours has been ruined.

Awful selfish behaviour. Hope you all feel better soon.

That’s rubbish. Perhaps they thought they were 48 hours so clear though? Like you, I still wouldn’t have gone if I was told in advance, especially just before Christmas.

I hope it’s short and that you feel better soon.

Totally inconsiderate! Happened to us just after Xmas several years ago... me, my DH, daughter, son and elderly mother all contracted this awful tummy bug all because some of my DHs family didn't tell us about their DGCs illness! I was furious!

That is really inconsiderate of them. I'd do the same. What did you say to them?

They are so inconsiderate. How did they react when you had a go at them? Did they apologise?

Urgh, YANBU

We have just gotten over a nasty stomach bug and havent let any family members visit this week to make sure we were at least 72hours after vomitting had stopped. Even tomorrow, all are made aware we have had it and i dont mind at all if they stay away.
Really sorry your xmas is potentially ruined, completely avoidable.

Awful of them, especially right before Christmas. I'd be furious.

Totally understandable that you’re angry. It’s irresponsible of them. I would cancel guests for a few days in their position in order not to pass it on. I know general guidance is 48 hours, but experience has taught me that it should be longer in order not to carry the risk. I’d be upset too. Sorry this has happened to you.

They really shoulda said. But I am sure you will be OK. Don't imagine they'd have been infected still. I am no expert, but the chances of you getting it are slim. Just as likely to get some bug or virus from a neighbour, friend, or someone in the queue in Tesco.

If it had been 48 hours, I can see how the mistake was made.

48 hours really isn't long enough, 72 is ideal - I'd be so angry too. I take it you ate before realising? Really sorry you're poorly

48 hours really isn't long enough, 72 is ideal

Especially if the person who had it is also preparing food and regardless of vomiting status, was still feeling unwell the day before.

I mean after 48 hours they’d have been allowed back into school etc - maybe they thought they would be free of any illness by then. However, it would have been best to mention it to you then you’d have the choice.

We’re all ill here with coughs right in time for Christmas 😢 nothing to do for it though, and it could have happened any old way, there’s a lot going round at the moment.

Really irresponsible of them. I hope you feel better soon.

Well apparently it was 48 hours from the vomitting side, but not the other end!

There was an "Oh, sorry. I just thought it would be nice to exchange presents before Christmas and didn't want to postpone". I can't believe how selfish! DD is being sick every ten minutes now even though all that's left is bile

I'd be furious. How selfish of them.

Yanbu. There is this crappy myth that people aren’t contagious 48 hrs later. Rotavirus is contagious for TWO WEEKS after symptoms go people!!

Sympathy OP. I’ve had the vomiting bug 3 times in my life and each time I caught it from someone who was convinced they weren’t contagious 🤬

You’d think after the pandemic people would have learned basic hygiene but apparently not.

Our entire household is sick now. Merry Christmas 🙄

I would text them saying thanks! Now we’re all ill merry Christmas. Ghastly behaviour from them.

That's shockingly selfish on their part, no wonder you're angry. Hope you all start to feel a bit better soon.

Years ago our friends turned up to my toddlers party and dropped into conversation that their daughter was just over a bug
I was not impressed - we all caught it!

If they were throwing up 2 days before they would no longer be contagious at that point.

also, you should wash your hands and so should your family members. 5 yo should too but I understand

Dreadful behaviour. I think the kindest analysis is if they are people who have rarely had a sickness bug and underestimate how contagious. We get them annually 1-2 times a year since having kids and people who don’t stick to 48hrs (or longer) are pretty evil as far as I am concerned!!

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yeah that’s nasty. YANBU

also, you should wash your hands and so should your family members.

I work in public health. If the person preparing the food has the virus on their hands and contaminates the food, then washing your own won’t save you.

OP, how horrible for you. I hope that you all recover quickly. Unbelievable how irresponsible and thoughtless some people can be.