Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Expecting people to accept you have covid

121 replies

9pmchange · 24/12/2022 20:57

Would you visit your family even if you have tested postive and expect them to accept this? Just curious how many people are "living with covid"

OP posts:
toomuchlaundry · 24/12/2022 20:59

I wouldn’t want anyone to turn up with flu, same attitude as with COVID

Thethingswedoforlove · 24/12/2022 20:59

Of course not!

Athenen0ctua · 24/12/2022 21:00

9pmchange · 24/12/2022 20:57

Would you visit your family even if you have tested postive and expect them to accept this? Just curious how many people are "living with covid"

Some of my family would insist we visited anyway and not be concerned in the slightest, some would not want to see us.

luxxlisbon · 24/12/2022 21:00

Living with it doesn’t mean being stupid though, it just means it’s not illegal to mix with people/ in lockdown.

I probably wouldn’t want someone who didn’t live with me already coming to Christmas with covid and spreading it about. Equally I wouldn’t want them to come and spread a vomiting bug or the flu or chicken pox etc.

Ivyonafence · 24/12/2022 21:00

I wouldn't and I'd be furious if someone did that to me.

LadyWithLapdog · 24/12/2022 21:01

Not acceptable. I don’t want a week off work and another 2-3 to recover afterwards. I’ve got stuff to do.

Sukisal · 24/12/2022 21:02

We wouldn’t know because we don’t test.

RoseAndRose · 24/12/2022 21:02

No, I would not visit if I knew I was infectious with anything

OrigamiOwls · 24/12/2022 21:02

I wouldn't be impressed is someone who knew they were COVID positive came to my house, but I feel the way about someone turning up with the flu.

FatAgainItsLettuceTime · 24/12/2022 21:03

No, just like I wouldn't expect anyone who loves or even likes me to deliberately expose me to Norovirus or Flu.

drinkallthecoffee · 24/12/2022 21:03

Sukisal · 24/12/2022 21:02

We wouldn’t know because we don’t test.

This

ilovesooty · 24/12/2022 21:03

Certainly not.

stayathomer · 24/12/2022 21:03

Living with Covid means going to see people even though you may get Covid because they might have it- not hoping you won’t get it when you’re around someone who definitely is!!

SingingWaffleDoggy · 24/12/2022 21:03

I would be pissed right off if someone knowingly came with covid, as I would be if they knew they had active flu for example.
There is “living with covid” and then there is knowingly infecting others with a virus that will at best be an inconvenience and at worst has the potential to be life threatening for some.

FiveShelties · 24/12/2022 21:04

That would be such a lovely Christmas gift, just in time to start the new year.

I would be angry at someone putting my family at risk.

StripyHorse · 24/12/2022 21:05

I'm just at the tail end of covid. Cancelled Christmas with family and just staying at home. Did deliver presents today- but everyone was aware that I was positive, doorstep deliveries (and stand well back) and masked.

No way would I go and visit properly and go inside.

Baconand · 24/12/2022 21:05

We have tested positive tonight and feel shite. We were hosting Boxing Day and have cancelled.
My parents did not do well when they had Covid last time, Dad was hospitalised. We wouldn’t mix, just like we wouldn’t if we had flu or any other illness.

Fifi00 · 24/12/2022 21:07

I'm ill tested negative. I'm about a week in I've told DF he still wants me to go. I'll bring some hand sanitizer

Nothomealonetoo · 24/12/2022 21:08

I have covid, have let all visitors know so they can choose what to do. Of the three groups of visitors due to visit over Christmas, one group coming as planned, one not coming, and one coming for a few hours but I'm hiding upstairs! Everyone has a different perception of risk.

MyCrumpetIsCold · 24/12/2022 21:12

No, I wouldn’t. I’ve been off work since Monday with Covid, and I’ve only seen one person (friend) who dropped some things off for me, but didn’t come in. She’s spending Christmas with her mother, who’s in her 90s, so I wasn’t going to risk passing it on. I was planning on going to visit my dad and his partner tomorrow, but they also know I won’t be visiting until I’m better.

Jellyjam36 · 24/12/2022 21:16

I'd be bloody annoyed if anyone comes to my house with covid / flu / extreme cough or cold.
I thought the pandemic made people more aware of not spreading germs

WheelofLife · 24/12/2022 21:21

I’ve got a respiratory infection though RAT tests are negative. I’ve cancelled all my Christmas plans out of consideration to other people

JustLyra · 24/12/2022 21:23

I think if you know you’re ill it’s bloody rude to expect family, friends or colleagues to risk it. Be that covid, flu, noro or anything you know you can pass on.

The number of people who seem to think “it’s not covid…” means it’s fine is bloody baffling. Keep known illnesses (be they known because you test positive or because you feel ill) to ourselves unless people are genuinely fine mixing with you.

Bigdamnheroes · 24/12/2022 21:25

I'd be pissed off. I don't want your illness no matter what it is. Covid, noro, flu, keep it to yourself.

Readaboutyourself · 24/12/2022 21:25

If I was ill or tested positive of course I wouldn’t go where other people are let along those I love.

Swipe left for the next trending thread