To want to stop buying my adult nieces and nephews expensive Xmas presents

[Thewifefury]

Having the standard what do you want for xmas chat with my sis, and she says don't buy me and or my partner anything expensive - just buy for the kids. Which I'd totally accept if her kids were children - but all three of her offspirng are young adults in their 20s. These adults dont buy my only child who is 9 a present for bday or christmas (although my sis does and puts all their names on). I've religously bought them all generous Christmas and bday presents but now the eldest is 21 I'm thinking I can drop the expensive gifts. I'll get them something small as a token, but I'm thinking its time to draw a line. Anyone else experienced similar?

DH always hugely generous with his nieces and nephews for birthdays and Christmas and significant events. He says because he doesn’t want to be ‘that person’ playing tit for tat.
They ignore DDs birthday and then send her something shit for Christmas and say it’s a joint present like it’s something particularly generous.
so this year he’s cut them off, they’re all adults. His sibling will no doubt be ranting about it.

2 of my nieces are well into their 20’s and I still buy for them
But I really enjoy buying them presents,we are a very close family and we see them every Christmas Day so it wouldn’t seem right to me to miss them
But if you want to stop I would,but from next year

DH’s siblings stopped buying Xmas and birthday presents for DD when she was 2. No idea why.

We realised a couple of years later (having bought for their combined 6 children during that time). It all stopped and none of us buy for anyone. Makes for a much less stressful time.

Some of you are being taken for absolute mugs, buying for adults and their children whilst yours get nothing back. It’s not about money, it’s about respect.

I bought for all my nieces and nephews this year ..6 in total , some are much younger ..but my DC 20s did not get anything , not even so much as a card or message on FB or anything to say Happy Christmas ..I send money , I don't buy gifts as we all live far apart. This is the last year though , I feel a bit stupid this year ..making such an effort and never getting anything back . I've never felt like this before , but times are getting hard now. I'll carry on with one who is more vulnerable , but that's it's for the rest ! I think I've always seen it as a way to keep in touch , and for my DC to be involved in a family that lives apart from each other , but just left feeling a bit of a mug this year !!

I'm one of 6 cousins on my mums side. She has 2 younger sisters, and they decided that once the youngest cousin turned 18, presents would stop, and it would just be cards and well wishes going forwards.

My sister is the oldest cousin, so got presents from both aunties into her late 20s, but my poor youngest cousin got cut off at 18.

I’m not at that stage with nieces and nephews yet, but my goddaughter turned 21 graduated and started working so I gave her a generous graduation present but told her the cash in birthday and Xmas cards would stop.

Glad he is stopping! Does the sibling usually rant?

Birthday/Christmas presents for nieces/nephews all stopped when they reached 21.

If adult nieces and nephews expect to get gifts then they need to be giving something from them back , even if it’s something small and inexpensive.

I would.let people know now that there won't be any prese to next year while xmas is still here, that way they have a year to get over it and you will not dread having to bring it up next year.