christmas with newborn?

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dd will be 4 days old on christmas. original plan was to go for christmas dinner at my dgms house with about 10 family members total. she was born 36 weeks so slightly prem. one family member has said they have a cough/cold but still going. one is currently out drinking in packed bars so if anything is going around i’m worried she’ll catch it and give it to baby.

i don’t know whether to go or not - advice please. don’t know if i’m overthinking it

Stay home OP! It’s not worth the discomfort to you or the health risks to your baby.
Also, be careful with pp’s suggestion to use a sling. Slings are great but not an option until babies are a certain weight (eg 8lbs) - so a maybe born a little premature is likely to be too small for a weeks. Check the instructions and maybe ask your health visitor or midwives for advice on your specific baby.

Perfect excuse to stay at home, especially with a fresh CS wound.

Baby blues kicked in on day 4 for me both times, and I spent all day crying. I was also massively bloated and couldn't even get Crocs on my feet. By day 4 all the hardcore painkillers and hormones of labour have worn off, and sh*t gets real !

DS was 36+5. Only 2 days in it, but considered prem.

Nope. Stay home.

I had to drag my sore, sorry arse to ILs on Christmas Day with a 2 day old baby. I absolutely shouldn’t have gone and with following babies I stayed firmly put at home, cosied up with my own loo, drinks, food… don’t do it OP! Have a lovely day at home.

Stay at home, plenty of time to see everyone.

My ds was born at 36+4, I tended to say that he was pre-term, rather than premature, just to make the distinction. He was 7lbs 1oz though (my girls at 39+ were 7.8 and 7.4, so he was bigger than my average) He didn't need any intervention, which is one of the reasons I avoided using premature.

Congratulations! 100% stay at home. If anyone (who is not ill!) can come and look after you, cook etc then great. Otherwise hard no to going anywhere or entertaining.

Wouldn’t even consider it. Maybe luck with a couple of people. But 10, with some of them sick?! Absolutely no way

thanks everyone. think i’ll stay home, i’d never forgive myself if she caught something

Wait. So you had a baby yesterday?

Congratulations OP. Forget this is even a question in your mind and stay home with your little family bubble and enjoy.
Those who matter won't mind, and those who mind don't matter.

Stay home and enjoy your baby.

i had no idea what day/time it was after my kids were born, let alone meet and greet.

fuck that!

Oh huge congratulations and happy Christmas!

Can’t believe you’re even thinking about going. I’d 100% be sat at home in my pjs eating party food and ALL THE CHEESE with a newborn. There’s no way I’d be getting dressed and passing baby around. I had a planned c-section with dc2 and while I felt sort of ok pain wise, I definitely didn’t want to get dressed up and go out.

Go and get your own shopping tomorrow and stay home. X

Congratulations by the way x

Do what makes you feel best.

Stay home! Congratulations!

Day 4 I was a snotty, crying mess, there were leaky boobs, bleeding heavily. Not a chance in hell would I have wanted to have left my bed/sofa and gone somewhere. You 100% have bona fide excuse to stay home and have snuggles with your baby and other child/ren and DH.

I can't imagine wanting to do anything but be with baby 4 days after their birth. Its a time, for me at least, for appreciating what you have and just being. At the same time if you feel that it is important to go then do. Baby will get colds, its just what it is. Just tell them to piss off if they want to pass baby around, explain that if they are ill you would prefer to wait.

Stay at home and snuggle up. You might not want to get out of your pjs. You deserve rest and home comforts with everything to hand. Can some of your family members drop round some Christmas dinner? That way you'll get to see them but won't have to lift a finger. Congratulations on your lovely baby.

I’d stay home, my DD was born at 35+6 and the day she came home from hospital she caught a cold from a family member that landed her back in hospital for a couple of days. Just rest up and take it easy this year!