Do your 11 year olds have instgram

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My DD is desperate to have this and arguing it is safer than tiktok/snap chat. Do people agree - would you let your DD have this at 11 and is it safer?

No, I don't think social media is healthy for teens, so I wouldn't allow it at that age.

No absolutely not.

No. My nearly 13yo doesn't...

Hell no.

Nope

No, and for me it’s not about safety, it’s about the obsession with the perfect photo and getting the likes. It’s not healthy.

Over my dead body. Instagram seems to channel the worst parts of social media: vanity, narcissism and obsession with physical appearance.

Pre-teens have enough pressure to comply and look a certain way without Insta.

I wouldn't. I would keep her off it for as long as possible (my dc are teens/preteen and do have no social media other than what's app).

No, but I wouldn’t let them have TikTok or Snapchat either so that argument would be invalid.

No way.

No. Their age requirement is 13 anyway.

Did you know you get a LOT of Tik Tok reposted on Instagram?

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Absolutely not.
my 13 year old has no SM at all, no Tiktok either and is still a well rounded kid with lots of friends.
what would adding SM and it’s endless encouragement of seeming popular or likes or funny or whatever add to their life?

While it's safer than Snapchat in the sense it doesn't have the disappearing messages, I think that there's far too much heavily filtered content on Instagram that isn't going to do her self esteem very good. While TikTok is problematic for other reasons, it is easier to avoid content that isn't all heavily filtered women's bodies and faces imo.
Has she discussed what kind of content she wants to look at or does she want want her own feed with pics? The former is very different to the latter.

@PeekAtYou she wants to post photos and use insta to edit her own photos etc. Happy to have it set as private or just immediate family being able to view it. Though once she's on it - this may well change re looking at other content etc.

Snapchat messages don’t ‘disappear’ if they’re screenshotted.
my DN ( 14 ) is all over SM and Tiktok doing dances in her bedroom, pouting at the camera, sharing her ‘journeys’ and has thousands of followers.
for some reason her parents think it’s okay for her to be getting compliments on how she looks from random adults on the internet.

Absolutely not.

Not my 12 yo
but to be fair she’s not interested in Instagram…
my first question is why? Do her friends really have it? And what she wants to post/who she wants to follow?
even with a very closed account, the risk is what they are seeing and falling for the “Instagram reality” thinking other people have the perfect life
i do know most kids have TikTok and Snapchat…

No. I won't let her have tik tok or Snapchat either. She has whatsapp and I heavily monitor it.

No way.
Insta (and all SM) is a fast track to teens hating themselves.

If she wants to take photos and share with friends and family there are lots of free apps that have better editing options than Insta and you can start a family grp chat on WhatsApp for her to show them.
You’re being naive if you think that’s what she wants to use it for- rather than to share and show off, and get ‘likes’ and attention.
People can copy and share her pics even in private grps.
she’s too young.

Plus she’ll be looking at all the vapid Insta posts of people leading their ‘best lives’ - she’ll start hating herself and her reality. Because that’s what happens if you spend time looking a doctored, filtered posts of people on holiday, or glammed up, or whatever.
it’s fake. Fake, fake, fake.
as an adult you can understand this, but a child can’t.

Yes. Unless you want to teach your child that it's ok to ignore age limits I wouldn't let her.

And also for all the other reasons people have mentioned

Also, you don't need to put your photos on SM to be able to edit and share.