Do your 11 year olds have Snapchat and Tim Tok

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I know you have to be 13 but have you let your 11 year olds have these apps?

for an 11 year old i get it, for a 14 year old to restrict access to basic social media feels like you just want him wrapped in cotton wool

Tik tok has some very dodgy stuff on there! Some has shocked/horrified me a bit, goodness
knows what it would have done to my little naive brain at 11.

If you are letting your child have Tik tok at 11 you are happy with them seeing hearing that stuff? Sheeesh, I very much judge you and your lack of parenting.

Yes to tik tok, but under my supervision

No. Don't let my just 13 year old have them either!

Nope. And they are specifically blocked on the sky shield broadband.

Nope. Neither.

Girls on social media are especially vulnerable.

This might be worth reading about how to manage sm use: mashable.com/article/girl-using-social-media-mental-health

When those in the tech industry, who helped create these apps, are asked they always say wouldn't let their children access them.

My youngest came home last year and said a boy had been talking about penis's going in girls mouths and bums.

Called school, asked for safeguarding protocol etc etc. Turns out a Dad had allowed his son unrestricted access to TikTok without any restrictions and that's what he had been looking at.

Nope, although we did consider Snapchat because a good few of her classmates have it and she really fancied the cat filters.

We both downloaded it one weekend to try it out, and she found porn 5 minutes in, and decided that it wasn’t an app she wanted on her phone.

I take the position that we have different perspectives and we both need to listen to each other. And also, that my dc are way more savvy than I am. It’s not hard to get around technological barriers so it’s important to better to focus on us all being able to communicate about these issues.

No neither. He has never asked for it either.

Nope my 13yo doesn't have anything like that and just this week after said to me she's now glad I've never let her have social media (after moaning at me previously about it).

Nope. Social media is something I plan to keep mine off of for as long as possible.

No, neither! He has WhatsApp but that’s all

No

I am quite surprised by these responses as I work in a secondary school and the vast majority of Year 7's are on Tik Tok and most are on snap too. Whether their parents know is another question. IME 11year olds just don't have the emotional maturity to handle what sm throws at them. It causes so many issues.

DD has WhatsApp. Fortunately she hates being photographed/filmed and has no interest whatsoever in having a tiktok account. Snapchat, she appreciates the safety concerns and again fortunately not interested.

My now 9yo however has ben badgering for her own YouTube channel... I think it will be harder with her!

No. My 11 yr old doesn't.

My 14 year old doesn't have snap chat as school asked all parents to remove it from teens phones.

Not interested in tik tok

trigger warning don't keep reading of sensitive...

Them posting isn't the problem with TikTok. It exposes them to everything and anything. There will be plenty along to defend their child using TikTok but the reality is you cannot control what your child sees and just be due it hasn't happened doesn't mean it won't.

I remember a thread way back when a man live streamed his gun use (on himself) on FB. The videos made their way to TikTok and still posters were jumping on the thread to defend their child using TikTok. Clips of this were embedded into cute kitten videos.

People saying 'my dc only watches it with me' as if their eyes are a minute ahead of the child's. If you see it, they see it.

My sister is 11, has tik tok not Snapchat

My 11 year doesn't have them. She used to have tiktok but then that suicide video was going round and I deleted it. She moaned at the time but she doesn't ask for it any more.

No, mine are older, eldest is 15 and they don't have Tiktok or any social media.
They don't feel left out it's a myth.
They don't care.

They are left to be kids without getting exposed to completely unsuitable content and kept safe from unsavoury characters online.

My children have seen the effect on kids with unrestricted access to social media and they can see how it's not suitable.

It's ok to say No to your kids, in this case it's giving them a chance to be kids without being negatively influenced.

I think it depends on what the other individuals settings are. It wouldn’t affect what your DC has it set to, as far as I know anyway. My DS isn’t glued to it, only has his friends on it and knows it’s conditional. I will say that my friends young teen wasn’t allowed any social media but sneaked some apps onto her phone anyway and installed and uninstalled the apps at her leisure, so her parents didn’t know for long enough.

Sorry I was replying to @DialsMavis

Mine don't, no. The teen just has WhatsApp to chat with friends. 11yo has just texting and can use my Skype account. No YouTube allowed on personal devices either.

In our social circles we have already seen some serious issues come up via Snapchat use and WhatsApp groups. The school recently asked all y7 parents to delete WhatsApp from kids phones due to all sorts of really awful stuff being shared/said.

My teen reports a lot of the kids at school are using these apps, but isn't personally bothered by me saying no at the mo as they see all the issues that peers have due to them.

No. My 13 year old only has WhatsApp, which we do monitor. No Tiktok no other messenger apps no SM

Almost 13yo here and no to both. She wanted Tik Tok when she first got her phone, 2 years ago. I know a cyber security expert who is also a parent who very strongly advised not to touch Tik Tok. She hasn't asked since and has never asked for Snapchat.

She has what's app and seems very sensible, she's taken herself out of groups when she doesn't like the dynamic and asks about anything that looks off to her, but I'd still be wary of either Tik Tok or Snapchat.