Would you let your 11yo dd wear this?

[Wetnovember]

YABU = yes
YANBU = no

Are you implying that the dress is low cut? Because I'm pretty sure it has a flesh coloured panel, in which case YABU

Not keen myself.
But I would never have worn something that revealing for myself either.
Would be surprised if an 11yo had the bust to fit it properly.

Op I was expecting a mini skirt and crop top not a perfectly reasonable party dress.

no
even if it's got a flesh coloured panel in it, the intention is to make it look like a low cut dress

Looks ridiculous with those shoes to me. What would I know though!

I would let DD(11 on Friday) wear it if she wanted, but she wouldn't as its not her style. I think it looks fine, my DD wears cropped hoodies and tops all the time

What hope do women have in dealing with the likes of Jeremy Clarkson if a women focused website think it's ok to pick apart an 11 year old. Shame on you @Wetnovember

Yes why not?

I think we're picking apart the parent's choice, not the 11yo.

When I first responded I only looked at the cropped picture in my view which showed neither the head nor shoes of the girl, nor the mother. So I just focused on the dress.

I wouldn’t, no
I don’t let my 11 year old wear crop tops or anything like that either, plenty of time to dress like an adult when she actually is one

I hadn’t even realised it was Harper. I could only see the dress on my phone until I enlarged it.

completely agree. To pick apart a child on here is low.

Yes, it’s fine imo. Makes me smile seeing girls in pretty dresses and comfy shoes, much better than the stupid uncomfortable shoes I used to wear.

I think we're picking apart the parent's choice, not the 11yo

So if your 11 year old daughter's picture was put on a website for people to criticise, you'd say "oh that's OK, they're really just criticising me, I can handle it" and your daughter wouldn't be bothered at all?

Have you been stewing on this for months? It’s rather old news isn’t it?

Didn’t this get done months ago?

I’d have let my 11year old wear that to an event where me, her dad and brother are with her. Harper is holding mums hand. Why not? My daughter wouldn’t want to wear it though, I don’t think she’s wore a dress since she was about 6. Stop judging and sexualising kids, stop judging women.

The real issue is with her dads behaviour supporting the World Cup. Leave the innocent child alone.

Well, I'd be very bothered as my DC weren't allowed to have photos online due to safeguarding.

But: a) The question was would I let my 11yo to wear that dress and b) as it turns out the picture was of the Beckhams who haven't exactly been shy of publicity for their children and was presumably taken at some kind of public outing, then it's a different matter.

If the question had been: Doesn't Harper Beckham look highly inappropriate in that dress you might have had more of a point.

I would. But at 11 my dd had nothing up top, so it would just be a grown-up ish looking dress. However she would not have been persuaded to wear proper shoes / do anything but drag a brush quickly through her hair. And the effect would be spoilt be her running around and being herself in it (and most likely getting the hem wet / muddy if outside or spilling something down it).

What's the point of a flesh coloured panel if not to suggest that the dress is low cut?+

MN never fails to amaze me. No idea if this is months old. I dont see the need to sexualise a child myself….the post isn’t specific to the mother or child…could have been a dress on a hanger, although it obviously wouldn’t look the same. I just wondered if my view of the dress was mainstream or if most mothers of 11 year olds think this is fine.

I'd be very bothered as my DC weren't allowed to have photos online due to safeguarding

presumably taken at some kind of public outing then it's a different matter

No, it's not a different matter. Anybody can take photos in public so unless you don't let your children out of the house, this could happen to you.

What an uncomfortable thread.

I'd be more interested in the answers to whether anyone would let (or feel it was appropriate) for other adults to screenshot and repost cropped images of your 11 year old DD's body to discuss on the internet in a public forum, with a view to shaming an outfit. The question of what one daughters wear could have been discussed without the use of that image.

I don't think what she wears is anyone's business, but would struggle to understand what it is that's on show in that particular dress that suggests a lack of modesty. We are talking about a child out holding hands with their mother, why there needs to be a judgement or implied sexualisation of this at all I've no idea but I'm not sure this is what adults should be doing with their time.

the post isn’t specific to the mother or child

And yet you included photos of both.

Ask yourself, if somebody posted a picture of your child on the Internet seeking criticism or their outfit, would your child be upset?

Honestly I've seen Belle dresses more revealing than that. She's 11 and it's a pretty dress. There are many 11 year olds that are wearing crop tops and daisy dukes. Most 11 year old girls wouldn't be seen dead in a frilly dress! I actually think she's being young for her age which is very sweet.
Leave this poor girl alone.

Yes, if they really wanted to wear it. It's the horrific footwear I'd probably try and sway them from!

No I wouldn’t let my (imaginary) 11 yo wear this, it’s too low cut!