Am I in the wrong or him

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I’ve been sleeping with somebody for around 6 months now. We do get on and he stays over for a few hours after but it’s been nothing more.

He usually gives me short notice when he wants to see me and almost expects it now that I will come and see him but it’s always for sex.

He lives very near by and sometimes he just says ‘I’ll pop up now, shall I’ or ‘as you know I can be there in ten minutes’. Sometimes if we are messaging, he will just walk straight up round to the back of my house and tell me he’s outside if I want him to come in but he can be very pushy sometimes and even though he gives me short notice he expects me to just want to see him. However, if I ever ask him it’s always a no or a maybe or a possibly.

He wanted to see me tonight but I didn’t reply as I was busy doing something but he wanted to nip up and he got really annoyed with me and said ‘frig it then, enjoy your Christmas anyway, see ya’

He has just text me to say ‘so that’s it then’. But he would just drop me whenever he felt like it so I don’t know why he seems so bothered

This must be really annoying for him because now he'll have to pay someone for sex tonight. You need to value yourself. You aren't at the moment so why should he?

No one likes to be dumped, even if they weren't that keen on the person who dumps them. He's miffed because he's lost his 10pm shag.

A lot of people are commenting that he is using you, have more respect etc. And some nasty comments too.

I believe that a woman's body is her own and if she wants a FWB situation, that is entirely up to her. If you are getting your needs met and so is he, everybody is a consenting adult, you are using protection and nobody is getting hurt, there is nothing wrong with it. You are using him as much as he is using you. It is possible to have a FWB situation that is respectful and kind.

But - he is now acting like a total dick, it is all on his terms. He is taking it for granted that he gets it whenever he wants it. For that, you should bin him off. FWB situations have a shelf life, and this one has run its course. Take satisfaction in binning him off for being a dick, and move on.