My son, 10 is a happy, easy going little boy, who doesn't get into any trouble, but I think is a little bit bored at school. He's always on the move, playing football, running, rugby, ruining his shoes and the knees of his trousers. He makes us laugh and is kind and loving.
We had his parent's night end of September ( Scotland, so earlier than other parts of Uk). The teacher was running late, and the door was wide open. Large queue of parents, and potential to overhear other conversations.
The first five minutes of the meeting was spent reassuring us that he was doing well, and keeping up with the rest of the class.
Then they threw a bit of a bombshell. It was very vague, but along the lines of " I think you should get your son referred by gp as we think he might have some issues. He lacks concentration, doesn't listen to instructions, and can't sit still for long"...
They asked if we had any personal concerns of that nature, or noticed any traits at home, and honestly it doesn't really resonate.
The meeting wound up and we had to leave. With a million questions not answered.
We contacted gp, but did t really know what to say, as the school were vague. We presumed they think he should get tested for ADHD, but this phrase was never specifically mentioned.
The gp was a bit meh. She asked what was the school doing to support him already?
She asked for specific examples. We felt a bit foolish and didn't really know how to respond. The gp concluded that if the school were concerned they should be doing the referral, and further reminded us that CAHMs (sp?) has a four year waiting list...
So we are a bit in limbo. We aren't entirely convinced. We feel that it's odd to wait until the child is in p6 before they bring this up? Has no one noticed anything before then?
Why bring it up at the end if a parents meeting? When they are running late,? Should they not have arranged a separate private meeting instead?
Furthermore, tomorrow is the last day of term. Not once have any of the teachers in the school approached us and asked how we got on with the referral. Not once have we had an update on our son's behaviour.
I feel this was badly handled. I also feel that maybe we could have handled it better.
Are we unreasonable to just leave this? Fwiw our son is leaving the school in June, and transferring elsewhere for unrelated reasons.
Would be grateful for any opinions
Ps we could get him assessed privately at a local cost of about £1700, however we don't instinctively feel the need, but at same time don't want to disadvantage him in any way.