For not cooking a roast in these circumstances?

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I've been ill for nearly 2 weeks now - nothing major just a nasty cough and cold with a fever that I just can't shift. I feel bloody lousy. My appetite has disappeared and I've not eaten all day.

DH meanwhile went off and ran a marathon today. He's come back, obviously tired and cold, but is pissed off with me for not cooking the roast. I did prep all the veg but that was about my limit. He's thumping around the kitchen muttering under his breath.

AIBU to just let him crack on with it...given that the marathon was his choice, being ill isn't mine?

This thread is peak mn batshit! Too much too unpick

Because they started to feel ill through cooking it?

OP has prepped some veg. So either put that in a container for tomorrow and order a takeaway or cook the veg with something else if you don't want to cook a roast

It's really not difficult, and is not stomping round the kitchen worthy. If he's got enough energy after his marathon to huff and stomp, he's got enough energy to put the veg in some tuppaware

He could Stick the prepped stuff in the fridge and make cheese on toast

Any grown ass human being who expects an ill person to cook a roast for them while they’re out doing a hobby can piss off. He’s being completely unreasonable.

If I'd run 26 miles in today's weather and had expected that there'd be some hot food when I got home, spent, cold and in need of food, I imagine I might not be my usual self if there was no prospect of it.

That's not to say that OP should have prepared a roast, but if she wasn't up to cooking surely she shouldn't expect him to either? There are a lot of people on this thread who have no concept of how hard it is to run a marathon, even if it is by choice.

A woman coming home from having run one in freezing conditions would get a lot more sympathy here.

OP has lost her appetite and been unwell for two weeks. She’s clearly not the one who’s going to eat the roast.

presumably OP doesn’t care if there’s a roast or not.

if I came home after a 26 mile race, I’d order a take out.
if I came home after a long days doing anything exhausting I would get a take out.

I thought most people would?

Or make yourself a sandwich, or eat leftovers. But not stomp around expecting unwell household members to have cooked you a slap up meal. Surely nobody is that entitled.

This

YANBU for not wanting to cook a roast when you are poorly but he is NBU for not wanting to cook a roast after running an actual marathon. You both need to chill out, phone it in and order a take away.

Do you normally have such a problem with punctuation?

Because they started to feel ill through cooking it?

Damn, she started cooking it two weeks ago?
I stand corrected! 😉

As I said in my first post on this thread. I think they are both being a bit u. They both should have made alternative plans.

It's the internet not a dissertation

you can have fluctuations during an illness

Yes it probably wasn't sensible to start cooking a roast. But it's not worth a tantrum, and presumably the husband has a brain and can problem solve if he doesn't want to continue cooking the roast

Plus my original statement was 'Her husband could have easily organised his running around popping it in the oven if he wanted a roast'. That makes perfect sense and clearly doesn't call it "his running around". Its you who's imagining random punctuation

my original statement was 'Her husband could have easily organised his running around popping it in the oven if he wanted a roast'.

@CarPoor presumably the marathon was a race. With its own timing and needing travel to and from it. How could he organise that around popping some meat in the oven (which is the easiest bit of making a roast dinner anyway)

I found going on a meal replacement diet did wonders for my domestic burden. And my waistline. 😜

Sorry for not updating sooner. I had a nap!

To clarify

We usually have a Sunday roast and normally I prep the veg and he does the actual cooking. We're vegan so no meat to put in the oven.

He was the one insisting on a roast this week. I did ask if he would feel like cooking it after the marathon and he said he would.

He regularly runs marathons so I wasn't expecting him to come back in such a state.