To ditch these bits of Christmas

[PupInAPram]

This year, with the agreement of my adult children whom I'll spend Christmas with, we are ditching: presents, tree, decorations, home cooked Christmas dinner (we have booked dinner out), Christmas cake.

We are keeping, special food treats, booze, board games and party games, many many fairy lights.

YABU Christmas should not be meddled with
YANBU Grown up households should pick the bits they like.

YANBU!!

This year I have ditched faffy window lights.....after dinner mints....Buck's Fizz....celebrations and heroes ( they are available all year round, not Christmassy)....and have not bought or sent a single Christmas card

Ditched tree chocolates and advent calendars last year as well as fake snow

Of course you can do what you like. You have the agreement of your family, so why does it matter what anyone else thinks?

I've no tree this year and adult children.
We are all about doing things and eating lovely food without the fuss.
Enjoy!

Definitely keep the bits you like. A tree is very important to me but not everyone.

Oh yes, ditched Christmas cards and advent calendars too. I don't like turkey and my two hate Christmas pudding and cake (the weirdos 😂).

Its a bit of an odd question. Everyone should do what works for them and what makes them happy at Christmas! For some people thats lunch and a tree, for others its fairy lights and board games, and thats absolutely fine.

The whole thing is a commercially driven shitshow. I hate all the nonsense that Christmas brings. Wasting money on stuff nobody wants, sitting listening to people you don't really want to talk to, getting fat "just because" ...its all ludicrous.

Yes no cake or Xmas pudding here for years.

Considering culling the prawn ring but might create a family fallout

Your decision, perfectly reasonable, even better that it is with agreement with your adult children.

I'd have kept Christmas cake of your list, but that's my choice not yours.

Agreed with previous poster-doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks! As long as you and yours are happy. It sounds miserable to me as I love all the trimmings but to each their own 🤷🏻‍♀️ enjoy 😊

Clearly, consenting adults can do what they like in the privacy of their own home.

I think maybe a touch unreasonable for asking us all to weigh in on it. We aren't the Christmas police.

I love cards, trees, cake and advent calendars but if be very keen to ditch the rest of it and cook something less fiddly. And all the present drama. It'd be nice to put a £10 limit on presents and receive socks and nice biscuit tins.

It's a pretty lighthearted question. I guess I could have just asked "what bits of a traditional Christmas do you actually like?"

As our kids get older it is common to scale back. We can talk about that without snippy replies in RL....but not here? Hmm

I love the christmas tree- I would be gutted and it genuinely wouldn’t feel like christmas without one to me. Ditto for home cooked christmas dinner.
pressies and christmas cake I could live without.

I'm ditching dinner this year and couldn't be happier about the decision. We'll have pizza, the oldests favourite. Kids are 12 and 2 so one won't know and the other doesn't care. DP is working nights so will be going to bed straight after lunch and like hell am I doing both the cooking and washing up on Christmas day.

Exactly. Nobody cares what you do next Sunday. Eat quavers and have an orgy if that floats your boat. If you have agreement of everyone involved, why do you care what some random people on the internet think? Do you like reassurance via social media, are you worried you won’t get any likes when you post pictures?

@limoncello23 are the 'what you are allowed to ask about on mumsnet' police?

You're doing quite a bit more than us OP 😂 I regard it as a bank holiday, with luck the weather will be mild and dry enough for a very long walk and a packed lunch.

I agree with the fairy lights although I see them as a midwinter/solstice thing rather than a Christmas thing.

@Anewhoo I'm in my 60s. Mumsnet is my social media. 😂 I can hear grans net beckoning though.

Have a tree up but haven't bothered with outside lights. No point sending cards, we've had no post for weeks and I'm still waiting for stuff ordered a month ago. Had about 4 Xmas cards, normally have many more by this time. It's not worth the expense and the faff!

I have an 11 yo though so we're still doing advent calendars and Christmassy trips out. On Xmas day it's just me and my two kids this year so I'm doing roast beef and sticky toffee pudding. We'll have a lovely relaxed day!

@FourChimneys yep, 100% agree. I'm celebrating time off work and being on the other side of the shortest day of the year.

This year I am ditching DC stockings (they are mid 20s) and next year no advent calendars because there's 2 sitting on the table unopened and it's 18th today.

You and your family should do what you want.

It would make me feel very sad, but that’s neither here nor there.

I think Gransnet is dull. You’ll be back 😁