Would you expose your kid to chicken pox a week before Christmas?

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YABU - No, she might be miserable and ruin her (and your) Christmas.

YANBU - Yes, get it out the way.

Need some perspective according to DH!

Exposure to the chicken pox virus can trigger shingles as well. It doesn’t just appear when immunosuppressed/run down. Yes, you don’t technically catch it because you already have it, but new exposure to the virus can trigger shingles.

I think it’s odd that people intentionally give their children chicken pox anyway tbh. They probably will catch it at some point naturally so just let that happen. My DC caught it at school in reception/year 1. But no, I wouldn’t want any of my children to be sick over Christmas because that’s really weird.

No. Not at any time of the year either.
I wouldn't knowingly expose my child to any virus.

Whilst chicken pox can be mild, it can also lead to serious complications in some cases.

This is a different situation to what I imagined though.

So your Dd isn't directly being exposed to chicken pox if your Dh goes out?

Has your Dh had CP himself?

I wouldn't think twice about Dh mixing with someone who's child has just had CP to be fiat.

However, if his friend has sits which could be chicken pox then he shouldn't be going out at all anyway. He should be getting it checked beforehand. You are not supposed to go out with CP.

Can you send me a link to that information please? I have never heard that before. It would be useful to have the info. thanks.

Has your Husband had Chickenpox OP. It would impact on how much there is a risk of your child getting it.

The nhs site states that you cannot catch shingles from exposure to chicken pox (you can catch chicken pox from direct exposure to shingles though) which is what I always believed to be the case.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/shingles/

Would be interested to know if this isn't the case.

IF your husband has already had it, and your daughter is staying home, then it seems tenuous to me. Friend should be staying home but for the sake of other people in the pub, not your DD.

If your husband's never had it then it seems silly to knowingly expose himself to it. Apart from anything else, chicken pox can be horrible in adults. But if he has, I am not aware of any evidence he would be exposing her. When there are CP outbreaks at schools no one seems to catch it from those who are already immune - siblings etc.

If your husband has had it, then I think it’s fine. I don’t think he can bring it home to Dd in this instance.

If your DH hasn’t had it he’s risking it for himself as well as your Dd which I wouldn’t think he’d want to do?

Not really the same as exposing her to another child who as cp directly, which was what I imagined

As a parent I wouldn't want to expose my children to anything, even a cold, especially for the sake of a bloody drink.

DS had chicken pox 3 times, in his eyelids, ears, under his foreskin, it was truly awful for him and watching him writhing around in pain and discomfort was really distressing for us. It can be mild, DD had it and we only knew when she later developed shingles, which again was nasty, painful and she still suffers from nerve damage and pain where the shingles hit.

Just why??

That's what I'd do.

I got chicken pox when I was 36. I was bloody ill, and in the first few years afterwards had several attacks of shingles as a result. Thirty years on, I get attacks of post-herpetic neuralgia at the site of the shingles rash, and it's really painful.

I wish there'd been a vaccine for chicken pox when I was a child.

How is he exposing her though. If he's had chicken pox himself he won't catch it from friend. And certainly won't pass it to DD. I think you title is misleading.

The friend is being very irresponsible going to the pub if, as you say, he has been in recent contact with a confirmed case, hasn't previously had CP himself, and now has a couple of spots.
Your DH should not be encouraging this plan.

Genius idea. Try to give her a chance to spend the New Year on oxygen with the sensation of boiling acid inside her vagina, urethra and her lungs struggling to get enough oxygen in. Add in permanent scarring and a fortnight of her skin feeling as though it's on fire. Or she might get just two spots; flip a coin, see what version she gets - I got the first version.

Of course, you could be lucky and it's your husband who has boiling acid under his foreskin and up his arsehole for a fortnight. Because some people's immunity to chickenpox doesn't last and they catch it again.

Absolutely genius fucking idea. All for some booze.

Do you think chicken pox is worse than other illnesses going around?
Would you not go out or allow your husband go out if someone they were meeting had a child with any illness?
I do get concern and hoping to stop your children being ill, but there's a lot of illness about at the moment, are your family all staying home all the time?
(Just to add, if my DH had not had chicken pox, I would not be keen on this night out either)

My then 11yo's whole class caught chicken pox at their end of term party and he passed it to his siblings. All 4 of them came down with it over Christmas, in waves.

14 yo DD had been exposed many times but had never had it and was really unwell. 13yo had 1 spot and felt fine. 9 year old was miserable.

11 yo had spots everywhere including inside his eyes and mouth. I spent Christmas Eve in a queue for the late night chemist and Christmas day at the hospital with the 11yo. It was grim.

My two both had it over Christmas one year, it was awful. They were desperately trying to enjoy it but were so bloody exhausted that I don't think they did :( they were only 5 and 4 as well.

It's the one that put me into hospital. Unlike Scarlet fever, Covid or influenza - and was easily the most painful of all.

Get the CP vaccine for your dc and do no unnecessarily expose them to any diseases?!

The friend shouldn’t really be going out so your DH encouraging him isn’t overly responsible.

Some of my daughter’s friends have had really bad cases. I was lucky that my eldest had it very mildly. I’m still not 100% sure if my youngest had it. The timing worked for it to be chicken pox but her spots didn’t pus up so no idea if she actually had covid or some other infection. At the time it was start of pandemic so healthcare was not at its best and a GP was trying to guess over a dodgy video consult. It’s not entirely clear whether she can have the vaccine or not given she might have had it.