Would you expose your kid to chicken pox a week before Christmas?

[Stuckinthemiddle1990]

YABU - No, she might be miserable and ruin her (and your) Christmas.

YANBU - Yes, get it out the way.

Need some perspective according to DH!

Wait so he wants to go for a drink - how is it exposing your DD to chicken pox?! I thought you meant hosting a pox party or something, not him going out for a drink?

How will she be exposed? Is he planning on taking her out for drinks with someone who has chickenpox?

Expose her to chickenpox before Christmas. It just happened that way

My eldest 2 children had chicken pox age 3 and 18 months. I'm getting my third vaccinated. They still have noticeable scars 5 years later and it was a miserable few weeks.

Who has chicken pox I don't think you have said I don't understand the link between your husband going out and .CP exposure?

No, as the potential for adults or those with immunity issues / struggling with flu or covid or both, means it can be a real issue too, so it will not just be her but all those around her at risk too. If she is exposed and you know she has been, then you should stay away from others as much as possible, as you are considered contagious for a few days before rash onset until all the chickenpox lesions have crusted (scabbed), with the need to avoid the fluid too, as that's infectious. My Hubster caught this as an adult and was very ill for a week (so bad I had to stay home and nurse him) and this is with a normal immune system and even needed antibiotics for the fact the scabs were so inflammed; a colleague caught it from his children and was hospitalized. It is not nice to deliberately infect anyone imo and, it is possible, she has already come into contact with the virus and just not shown a rash, as my brother had the grand sum of 4 spots as a 12 year old and I had so many you couldn't see my skin for the rash! Struggled as a teen, not something I'd be wanting to have been knowlingly given and just for information, you can also catch it twice, unusual, but not unknown!

Husband wants to go out with friend who's son has just had it confirmed by docs he has it. Friend hasn't had it either as a youngster but has since found a couple of spots on himself but doesnt think it is. Neither DH or friend think this is an issue.

DD has been poorly herself over the last 3 weeks and I just don't want her to get anything else!

When I was a kid I was put in a small room with two friends, one of whom it turned out had chickenpox. Needless to say I also went down with it and ‘got it out of the way’ so to speak. This wasn’t at Christmas and I certainly wouldn’t do that now with any child particularly if they have to go to hospital with the NHS as it is, (nurses on strike and A&E at the mo can be a 12 hour wait). You must have your own doubts otherwise you wouldn’t be on here? If your hubby is wanting to do it to have a drink then he is extremely selfish. Go with your gut….

If your husband has had it then I think it's fine. You catch chickenpox from someone who has it, I don't think you can catch it indirectly.

I don't think that counts as exposing them to chicken pox and he should go.

Please educate yourself.

Chicken pox can kill. A lady on here lost her child a few years ago. It can also cause life changing injury.

No loving parent deliberately expose their child to that risk. There is a vaccine

My child was terribly poorly for 3 weeks with chicken pox. Vaccination wasn't available back then, but I would absolutely vaccinate my DC if it had been. There is a mum on here whose baby died from CP, IIRC.

Nope nope nope.

That's not exposing her to chickenpox unless he takes her to the pub too! Assuming your DH had chickenpox as a child then he's fine to go.

Grandson wound up in hospital, his brother had six spots. A grandparent caught it as shingles was ill for a year. So no YABU

And moving forward consider having her vaccinated against it. We did when DD was little

Your DH's friend shouldn't be going out... I got cp as an adult, I was pregnant, and I was really unwell (and terrified). He's thoughtless to even consider it.

I worked with someone who's grandchild died because of chickenpox. It's a no from me.

In that case I change my answer. That’s not exposing her to it.

YABU absolutely not

If your DH has had it already he shouldn't be able to carry it or pass it on, but washing his hands as soon as he gets back, and not going to give DS a cuddle until after he's showered and changed clothes would be a good extra precaution: chicken pox virus can theoretically be transmitted on clothes.

It's £75 per jab or £140 if you buy both at once, not £250. It's on their website.

You also get boots points for it if you have an advantage card (and presumably you could use a double points voucher too...)

Wait so it’s your DH going for drinks with a friend and it’s just the adults, the kids won’t be going? And you want DH to cancel because the friend’s son has chickenpox?

If yes then nowhere in that scenario would your DD be exposed to it! So obviously your DH should still go for drinks! Crazy!

If I have it wrong and your DH wants the kids to meet then that’s obviously different though.

I stand corrected, but it’s still not pocket change.

Why not get them vaccinated? That's what I did