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Should I have moved my car? Parking thread!

63 replies

LG93 · 14/12/2022 12:03

So I had an altercation at the hospital this morning in the carpark with a man. It's a community hospital if that makes a difference (so nobody there is in a life or death situation, they only have minor injuries, outpatients, physio and scans etc) with a tiny car park which is almost always full. There are no arrows on the floor anymore so it's a bit of a free for all, but the 'aisles' are wide enough for 2 cars and so the general consensus seems to be you all drive around at random and then it's basically pot luck as to who happens to be near a space when it becomes empty, like a really dull and fuel wasting game of musical chairs.

I'd been driving round for about 10 minutes when as I got the end of an aisle, I saw a mum and child approaching their car in the space I was perpendicular to, so I reversed back out of their way and put my indicator on to signal I was going to pull in when they left.

Another car appeared the other side of them and pointed at the space in what I thought was an 'are you going in there' fashion so I signalled/mouthed yes I am, but he didn't move. The car pulled out and I pulled in, and the man jumped out and ran over to my car telling me that was his space . He said that he'd followed them as he came in the entrance round to their space and that therefore it's his space. I pointed out that I had also seen them coming and was by the car and was already indicating for the space before he even came into my view and so was entitled to park there ( obviously if he had been in view and indicating to the space already I would have been unreasonable to push into it first, but that wasn't the case) he started shouting why did I think that the rules didn't apply to me and that it didn't matter I'd been there longer, I deliberately didn't raise my voice but simply stated there are no 'rules' and I was entitled to park there, he then changed tact to yelling 'move your car' at me which I replied once to to say no, he then started saying 'well you might find your car blocked in when you come back ' by this time I was unloading my bag out the car and just said if that was the case I would get the security team involved when I returned to my car. I was shaking a bit at this point as felt quite vulnerable with my young baby in the back of the car too but focussed on not raising my voice or escalating the situation, and when it became apparent I wasn't moving (or he saw me get the buggy out, not sure which) he eventually got back in his car and continued driving round with everyone else. When I came back to the car after my appointment he was parked a few cars down.

I'm now wondering though if I was unreasonable and while I know there's no enforceable rules, have I broken car park etiquette? Surely if it was a thing that you followed people from the entrance, everyone would wait at the entrance to the car park and then drive in when they had a returner to follow?! Obviously if I had seen him waiting or he was already stationary when I got there it would have been different, but I also saw them returning to the car and was there first, even if I had seen him making his way to the space it would have been impossible to know that's where he was heading and not the exit from another space, surely it's just bad luck on his part (in the same way it was bad luck when I drove past a space only for them to pull out and the person who was behind me in the car park got it within seconds of them entering the car park)

So was I unreasonable? I've attached a diagram to try and show the layout if it helps at all!

Should I have moved my car? Parking thread!
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Gunner1510 · 14/12/2022 21:06

I would love to have this situation repeated but instead of you, a great big strapping 6ft+ bloke driving your car, to see if the other driver would have done the same thing. My guess is he wouldn’t of said a word!
You weren’t in the wrong at all and well done on the spectacular diagram!!

User3billion · 15/12/2022 07:45

Excellent diagram OP! My first thought when coming onto the thread was "oh a diagram, how exciting"

As everyone has said, you were most definitely in the right.

Anyone else look at the polls ever & wonder who those 3% are?! I'm certain some people just vote the opposite way to everyone else for no good reason.

Should I have moved my car? Parking thread!
SinnerBoy · 15/12/2022 08:19

Trisolaris · Yesterday 16:46

I had a really odd one the other day. I was very obviously just about to drive into a space that was one of a row of two, both empty.

I did that the other week, I went in slowly and was more than 3 quarters through the second space when a woman came up at speed. She started to beep and wave her hands, she looked enraged. I just ignored her and got out.

She told me to move, but I said I was already in. If she'd been nice about it, I would have reversed.

RaRaRaspoutine · 15/12/2022 09:22

YADNBU. FYI if you are ever blocked in you are encouaged to phone 101 and once you've given the number plate of the offending car, the owner is contacted and told to move (had experience with this with arsehole neighbours).

SinnerBoy · 15/12/2022 09:46

My wife got such a call, a couple of years ago! She'd come home in the dark and was overhanging the neighbour's drive by a little bit. It was accidental on her part.

She was mortified and apologised to the guy. He was gracious about it and said he would have knocked, had he known which house the car pertained to.

Fullyhuman · 15/12/2022 10:54

Awful you have to circle for ten minutes or more! Is there nowhere to park further away? I’d walk a mile or so in preference to that. But not everyone can. You were totes not U and v diplomatic.

newnamequickly · 15/12/2022 12:56

Well done you for handling it calmly. It WAS your space. He was being unreasonable and using this to get you to move.

Mrsherdwick · 15/12/2022 13:03

Fantastic diagram there. He’s a CF. Good on you for not being bullied into moving.

Trisolaris · 15/12/2022 13:19

@SinnerBoy Haha promise it wasn’t me!

I just rolled my eyes and went around

closingscore · 15/12/2022 13:25

Well as you'd been in the car park driving round presumably before he arrived I'd say it was your space!

pocketvenuss · 15/12/2022 13:32

vivainsomnia · 14/12/2022 15:24

Sometimes, in those circumstances, it's really not very clear who was there first. He was coming from the side so it is very possible you didn't see him and he didn't see you.

That has happened to me and when it does, I just relent because I can't be bothered to battle and argue that I'm right and the're wrong, and instead, usually find another space anyway.

Unless it was obvious but you chose not to see him, he had to accept that it came down to your or his space and just moved on.

If you were already parked would you seriously relent and pull out if the space just because a duck yelled at you?

LG93 · 15/12/2022 13:39

Fullyhuman · 15/12/2022 10:54

Awful you have to circle for ten minutes or more! Is there nowhere to park further away? I’d walk a mile or so in preference to that. But not everyone can. You were totes not U and v diplomatic.

The hospital is on a fairly main road that you wouldn't want parked cars on, there is a residential estate half a mile or so down the road that you could probably park on and walk up, but the road doesn't have a pavement and is a bit too twisty for me to want to do that with the baby. It's a bit pot luck, when I can back to my car there were half a dozen empty spaces, sometimes it's rammed, it must just depend on timings I guess! They've got some lovely green space which I can't help but think could be better used as some extra parking, but it's a historical building so wouldn't be surprised if it's listed/can't be altered!

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SinnerBoy · 15/12/2022 14:36

*Trisolaris" · Today 13:19

@SinnerBoy Haha promise it wasn’t me! just rolled my eyes and went around.

Yes, there's not much point getting wound up if there are plenty of spots. If I'd just got in and she'd been further in from her end, I'd have backed up without being asked.

In this case, I was most of the way in and she went from zero to Defcon 5.

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