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CaptainMyCaptain · 14/12/2022 08:25

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 14/12/2022 07:12

Are these tags not fitted with an RFID chip or similar that (supposedly) sets off an alarm when somebody tries to pilfer the item? Or is the idea just that an intact tag on an item will make it very difficult/impossible to benefit from your stolen goods?

Considering that plenty of people on here - who I'm sure are honest and not shoplifters - know how to remove the tag yourself at home, I highly doubt that the regular criminal fraternity wouldn't also be aware of this. What is the point of them, then?

They are supposed to set off an alarm when you leave the shop but they don't always work. I once bought an item which turned out to have a tag - it didn't go off until I entered a different shop.

Peony15 · 14/12/2022 08:28

you get plenty of retail staff who do not remove rags or don't realize items have one. Pretty certain that's what happened.
Ask
your friend which store it came from and if they are able to remove tag as you would love your DD to wear it. It's a pretty common occurence, especially annoying if it's an outfit you buy to wear to a party same day. Probably happened to most of us

Annabella91 · 14/12/2022 08:34

Don't bin it just mention it to her it does happen it's happened to me twice i ended up cutting it of with scissors i couldn't be bothered going back. 2nd time i took the item back with my receipt.

Knors · 14/12/2022 08:39

Once I bought a some clothes from boots for DS and one of the jumpers still had the security tag on it. I knew I paid for it as I checked my receipt. I took it back to boots and they happily took it off as it was just a mistake.

In your situ, I would def speak to your friend as the same thing could have happened to her. I very much doubt she stole it. It's nothing to feel awkward about!

SurpriseSparDay · 14/12/2022 08:41

Gosh, @CanStopWillStop - you haven’t lived! Tags being left in is so common, particularly at busy times like Christmas. It’s happened to me at least twice in the past few years, once with a gift for someone else. Didn’t notice until I was wrapping it on Christmas Eve. Gave the gift with apologies and took it back to the shop with receipt after Christmas. Absolutely no problem.

It’s surprising you’re seeing a difficulty here. (FWIW, if your friend has stolen the dress then she’ll be obliged to dispose of it herself and maybe buy your DD a replacement!)

Scramble1805 · 14/12/2022 08:43

Strong magnet will release it. That's all they use in the shops.

TallulahBetty · 14/12/2022 08:45

"Hi Friend. Would you happen to have the receipt for DD's dress please? The store left the security tag on, so I need to go and get it removed. Thanks"

SnowlayRoundabout · 14/12/2022 08:50

I feel awkward telling my friend as I don't want her to try to fix the situation by taking it back etc.

Why? If I had gone to the trouble and expense of buying something as a present that couldn't be used for this reason, I would want to fix it. I can't see what the problem is in telli,ng her.

SnowlayRoundabout · 14/12/2022 09:01

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 14/12/2022 06:53

But this is exactly what she should do! Why is that in any way awkward?

In case she nicked it. It would be the same asking somebody for a receipt to exchange a present for a different size or colour when they had no receipt - because they 'bought' it with five-finger discount.

All the more reason to ask the friend, surely. That way the friend is either going to have to admit the dress was stolen - in which case OP gives it back and ends the friendship - or go back to the shop and actually buy another dress, so at least they get some money off her.

Emotionalsupportviper · 14/12/2022 09:12

CanStopWillStop · 13/12/2022 23:27

A friend gave DD a gift for her birthday yesterday. It's a Christmas dress. Not particularly keen on it tbh, but I always appreciate any gifts for my kids and will almost always take a picture of the kids in the outfit, or bring the kids to see said friend wearing their gifted outfit.

The issue I have is the dress has a huge security tag on it. I don't believe my friend would have stolen it, but not sure what to do.

The tag is in a very obvious/uncomfortable place so DD can't wear it or even try it on really. I don't think I can donate a dress which has a security tag, and I feel awkward telling my friend as I don't want her to try to fix the situation by taking it back etc. It also feels wasteful to bin it, but not sure what to do without a receipt or asking for one. I've never taken a security tag off an item before, wouldn't even know where to start or if it's ethical.

Halp lol.

Sometimes tags are left on clothes, and they for some reason don't set off the alarms.

Do as another poster has suggested and tell your friend.

Babyg1995 · 14/12/2022 09:23

I don't see what the problem is just tell your friend and get tag taken off simple

Morestrangethings · 14/12/2022 09:29

SnowlayRoundabout · 14/12/2022 09:01

All the more reason to ask the friend, surely. That way the friend is either going to have to admit the dress was stolen - in which case OP gives it back and ends the friendship - or go back to the shop and actually buy another dress, so at least they get some money off her.

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Just to say first: I don’t have the nerve it would take to steal something. too much anxiety. Nor am in such a tough financial situation to actually need to do it. I’m one of those people who give back change if given too much because I worry that cashier might have to make up the difference at end of shift etc..

If I found out a friend stole stuff from stores, I would tell that friend I didn’t agree with her doing that, that I’d not want to be a recipient of any stolen stuff, but I would not end the friendship over it. Life is too tough, friends are valued. I will not sit in absolute judgement.

LovelyLovelyWarmCoffee · 14/12/2022 12:12

FFS just ask your friend for the receipt.

Emotionalsupportviper · 14/12/2022 13:59

I can't understand why your first thought is that your friend must have stolen it.

It would never occur to me to think that any of my friends would do this.

brainexplorer · 14/12/2022 15:31

SunshineAndFizz · 14/12/2022 07:15

@brainexplorer kills two birds with one stone - she can actually exchange it for something she'd like. Otherwise she goes to all that effort just to have a dress she doesn't want.

That makes sense!

Cherrysoup · 14/12/2022 16:12

Just give it back to her and tell her the tag is on.

Favouritefruits · 14/12/2022 16:45

Pliers and brute force work well on security tags, I’m not a thief just had many security tags left on items and I’m too lazy to traipse back to the shops usually.

Allybob88 · 14/12/2022 16:57

You are being ridiculous, I bought our nephew a tracksuit and it turned out the security tag was still on. His mum text me, I passed over the receipt and she sorted it (I did offer to take it back but she said it was no problem).

Ask for the receipt take it back and swap it for something you do like 😂 stating they didn't have another in DD size!

Reindear · 15/12/2022 10:39

You can use 2 forks to prise it apart. I did this when I bought something and got home and it had a tag on and I could not be arsed driving an hour back. Might wreck a fork a bit though

ScotlandEuropa · 15/12/2022 10:41

ethical 😂

This seems to happen to me all the time. I just wrestle them off with pliers and go on with my day

latetothefisting · 15/12/2022 10:59

belowfrozen · 13/12/2022 23:30

Or take it to the shop and ask to remove. It does happen

The shop will assume you've stolen it in that case!
I'd tell the friend and then she can sort it.