‘Oh I’m just so lucky’ #blessed

Thedogscollar · 12/12/2022 22:10

If it's Facebook come off it. It's all BS anyway.

TinaTeaspoons · 12/12/2022 22:13

I get it. Wealthy friend posting photos of their posh family lunch yesterday and made me feel sad. There's a divide right now between the wealthy whose life hasn't changed or is even better then ever, then there is everyone everyone else....

Dacadactyl · 12/12/2022 22:15

I don't care from a cost of living POV. I still think "twat" though. I just think "if you're life was really all that, you wouldn't be posting about it cos you'd be too busy living it and enjoying it". I think it's the height of insecurity personally.

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Peggingsoundsgross · 12/12/2022 22:16

@TinaTeaspoons Exactly!
I mean, we’ve had lovely times in the past with lovely travels around the world, and I did post pics, but not with the same captions…it almost seems deliberate 🤷🏻‍♀️I certainly wouldn’t post designer shopping and jewellery purchases, just seems quite vile at this current time. I didn’t feel like that before (designer bag and jewellery shots I always thought quite pathetic as it isn’t my thing) but it just seems wrong at the moment to be so boastful of it.

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Peggingsoundsgross · 12/12/2022 22:16

@Thedogscollar Fb, but mainly Ig too

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Peggingsoundsgross · 12/12/2022 22:19

An old friend from college has literally posted a pic of where she’s off next with the caption being about Christmas shopping being ✅ and others with designer clothes and jewellery and #goals 🙈I’d rather die than post that shit, isn’t it embarrassing 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Pocketfullofdogtreats · 12/12/2022 22:33

YANBU. I bought a shirt for DH today (his main Christmas present) that was quite expensive - not a 'designer' brand but different and good quality, and I felt a bit guilty because it was more than I needed to spend. There is no way that I'd want to shove down other people's throats that I was buying expensive clothes. It's just showing off and you have to ask yourself why people feel the need to show off to impress others.
I don't actually get 'designer' anyway - who decides what 'designer' means and what' brands are envy-worthy and what aren't? It's all ridiculous.

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Peggingsoundsgross · 12/12/2022 22:36

@Pocketfullofdogtreats It must be insecurity? I never really thought about it much before, but it’s been really bothering me recently, maybe because so fewer people are posting like that, so when they do, it really stands out. I mean people are entitled to spend as they wish and enjoy themselves as they wish, I suppose it’s the blatant captions that just seem shitty at this time

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Dacadactyl · 12/12/2022 22:15

I don't care from a cost of living POV. I still think "twat" though. I just think "if you're life was really all that, you wouldn't be posting about it cos you'd be too busy living it and enjoying it". I think it's the height of insecurity personally.

Yes agreed. The times in my life that I’ve had the best, most FB-bragworthy moments I’ve completely forgotten about my phone or the outside world.

It’s interesting to see people just posing when they go to events - not really enjoying it, engaging with their family or taking anything in - it’s all about the pictures. One that was particularly memorable occasion was a spectacular firework display - one dumbo had her back to it the whole time either taking selfies or bent over her phone checking the selfies. DH held their baby throughout. Fireworks going off behind her and she was oblivious. And yet to her ‘audience’ she’d no doubt had a lovely family night with her DH and baby at the fireworks - no, she’d had a lovely night with herself and her phone, looking at herself.

Just why? I guess thick and needy.

Tollumi · 12/12/2022 22:47

I apply my usual rule of not giving a shit what other people buy or how much it cost.

Spending time taking photographs of your shopping and then taking more time to plaster them across social media is a bit daft anyway.

Some people have more money than others. Some people will always want other people to know about it. They're either twerps to not clock that it's a bit tone-deaf these days, or they know perfectly well, and that spurs them on to post more look-at-my-shopping-bags claptrap.

So either way, they're not people who you should be wasting headspace on. Because they're twerpy.

BagOfBollocks · 12/12/2022 22:49

It never used to bother me, but people doing this now in the current climate, seems really insensitive? I’ve just started to think ‘Twat’ and am really going off them, aibu?

That does make you sound a teensy bit bitter to be fair. Understandable though I guess.

Although I don't really post on FB, I do still like seeing others enjoying life. I feel like I'm living mine through theirs sometimes 😊

ScreamInBlue · 12/12/2022 22:50

Dacadactyl · 12/12/2022 22:15

I don't care from a cost of living POV. I still think "twat" though. I just think "if you're life was really all that, you wouldn't be posting about it cos you'd be too busy living it and enjoying it". I think it's the height of insecurity personally.

Exactly this ^

CourtneeLuv · 12/12/2022 22:52

Peggingsoundsgross · 12/12/2022 22:16

@TinaTeaspoons Exactly!
I mean, we’ve had lovely times in the past with lovely travels around the world, and I did post pics, but not with the same captions…it almost seems deliberate 🤷🏻‍♀️I certainly wouldn’t post designer shopping and jewellery purchases, just seems quite vile at this current time. I didn’t feel like that before (designer bag and jewellery shots I always thought quite pathetic as it isn’t my thing) but it just seems wrong at the moment to be so boastful of it.

Yabu. People can post what they like on their own social media. Many people use it as a photo/memory album. If you are jealous of them, stop following them.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 12/12/2022 22:52

People only post about the good things don't they. They're hardly going to post about the massive row they had last night with their Mr Perfect or the debt they're possibly in to fund their life style All that glitters ain't gold.

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Peggingsoundsgross · 12/12/2022 22:53

@BagOfBollocks I enjoy seeing people posting enjoying themselves, I suppose it’s a particular couple of friends posts I’ve seen recently, just the captions and the very obvious ‘Oh how lucky and rich we are’ seems so wrong right now 🤷🏻‍♀️
Maybe I am bitter as fairly skint after paying a huge electricity bill, I admit. Although I’ve had amazing travels and lots of lovely things in life so usually don’t mind at all

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Peggingsoundsgross · 12/12/2022 22:54

@CourtneeLuv I’m not jealous…I just question the appropriateness of it at the moment. I also post and use it as my memories, I suppose it’s the over the top, obviously showy captions that seem wrong

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pinneddownbytabbies · 12/12/2022 22:55

My life is pretty shit at the moment, and there is no prospect of things improving. In fact in the short term it is only going to get worse. To be totally honest, anyone telling me how lucky they are to be so blessed in their lovely life would be finding themselves on the rough end of my temper.

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Dacadactyl · 12/12/2022 22:15

I don't care from a cost of living POV. I still think "twat" though. I just think "if you're life was really all that, you wouldn't be posting about it cos you'd be too busy living it and enjoying it". I think it's the height of insecurity personally.

I never really understand people who say this.

It takes minutes (maybe even seconds) to upload photos to social media surely? I don't think it'd get in the way of living a great life.

It's still pretty boastful though.

Notsoyummymummy2 · 12/12/2022 22:56

I don’t see so much direct boasting anymore, it’s more something I’d call ‘humble bragging’. Instead of directly flaunting their wealth/beautiful house/angelic children/perfect wife, there’s always a picture with one of the following statements: So grateful/so lucky/so blessed with the odd ‘such a beaut day for a run (queue filtered out selfie)’ here and there to prove that ‘hard work pays off’. Ugh.

BagOfBollocks · 12/12/2022 22:57

Peggingsoundsgross · 12/12/2022 22:53

@BagOfBollocks I enjoy seeing people posting enjoying themselves, I suppose it’s a particular couple of friends posts I’ve seen recently, just the captions and the very obvious ‘Oh how lucky and rich we are’ seems so wrong right now 🤷🏻‍♀️
Maybe I am bitter as fairly skint after paying a huge electricity bill, I admit. Although I’ve had amazing travels and lots of lovely things in life so usually don’t mind at all

Nail on the head then.

If it's making you bitter, might be time to take a break? At the end of the day you don't know what's going on in their lives, and they're probably just posting their memories like you did/do.

GuyFawkesDay · 12/12/2022 22:58

Go and watch Shabaz Says on tiktok. His "I'm rich you're poor" commentaries on other people's social show offs are brilliant.

Luxurysleuth007 · 12/12/2022 22:59

I just find those who are so enthralled by luxe social media posts and the bragging that so often comes with that territory just vapid. Most of them are unbearably materialistic and affected, often trying to fill voids in their lives / personalities with possessions.

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Peggingsoundsgross · 12/12/2022 23:02

@BagOfBollocks But I never did it like they do…even back when lots of people were able to afford to live a nicer life than they can now. It’s the #Goals and #workhard type ones…don’t we all work hard and this was from a woman who doesn’t work..her husband has amassed all this recent wealth . Just so tone deaf as has put me off this person tbh..not really about me as we’re ok in general, just the collective of most people in the country

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BabyOnBoard90 · 12/12/2022 23:04

You sound envious, which is a normal human reaction.

Temper social media usage

whumpthereitis · 12/12/2022 23:06

Stop following them?

I don’t have Instagram, but if I did I wouldn’t follow anyone who didn’t interest me or who made me feel bad about myself. If I did that would be entirely a me problem, rather than theirs. I don’t think people who post things like that are necessarily insecure, some (even most?) will genuinely be enjoying their lives.

Social media is an entirely normal thing to do for millions of people, and I don’t think choosing not to use it is inherently superior. Thinking people who post their good fortune are secretly miserable or insecure sounds like wishful thinking of the vindictive variety tbh, and I’m not sure that’s an attribute that can reasonably portrayed at righteous.