Why are people so so impatient

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I just got beeped for letting two cars out in a slow moving queue instead of one. The cars in front of me hadn't let anyone out so I figured why not be generous. The feeder road was also v v busy. But I hardly sat and let 10 cars out. And the person behind me beeping as car no. 2 went out...it makes me see red. How can you go through life being such an absolute tosser?! Because really, I delayed their journey by 3 seconds. maybe 5. They need to really ask themselves what they have lost in those precious few seconds.

Similar happened in a queue to the science museum in London recently. The family in front stopped at the entrance to take a photo. We waited for them. I'd say 5-7 seconds. The woman behind us starts huffing "can we move please". I mean, did she need that extra 7 seconds in the building? She could have made up that time by walking a bit faster once we all got in.

I just think people are in the mindset of DO NOT DELAY ME FOR A NANOSECOND and don't even stop to think how delayed they have been. Totally irrational. And yes, I too am in a mad impatient stressed rush sometimes ....but at I maintain perspective.

I just hate this behaviour. It makes me SO cross. And I had to rant.

It’s like the muppets that overtake because you are only driving 50mph in a 50mph zone and then 5 minutes later you pull up directly behind them at the next roundabout. People need to get a grip and leave earlier if they are in such a rush.

I could have been that person a few years ago in 2018. I had received a frantic phone call from my mum to say my DSiS had been blue lighted to hospital and was on her way to ITU. I was at work, dad couldn't drive that far (the hospital is a 45 minute car journey and dad had just had an eye op), mum was still recovering from a TIA so also couldn't drive. I had had to negotiate a traffic diversion, was held up by tractors, had to endure 2 sets of temporary traffic lights (both on red and didn't change for ages), and then to top it all off someone decided to let a few cars out. What should have been a 1hr journey (15 minutes to my parents + 45 to the hospital), ended up being around an hour and a half, not knowing if my DSiS was dead or alive.
You don't know where the person behind you was going, why, or what had happened to them prior to them being behind you. They may have been a impatient twat or they may have reasons for wanting to hurry up.

What flight?

The cars that have seen two or more cars be let in front won’t let any car join the road in front of them. If one car at a time is let in the everyone generally lets in that one car. So the people that wave in two or more cars are a hassle because the joining queue builds up because others don’t let cars in because they feel delayed.

The amount of drivers ive seen speeding in the last few weeks has been frightening. Christmas shopping and parties on their minds i suspect instead of concentrating on what they are doing.

@RandomPerson42 YES. Seen a lot of that.

People have become much more selfish nowadays.

What if the traffic is 2 mile long.. are they supposed to wait until the end of the queue as you call it? What if there's an emergency they need to get to? Do you wait until the end of the queue? I bet you don't

There’s a road I drive down on the way home from work with traffic lights at the end leading onto a roundabout. There is also a side road that leads onto this road, where cars pull out just before the traffic lights.

It’s a stupidly positioned road, because so many people let all the cars from the side road pull out meaning the traffic lights change and nobody moves! it’s bloody irritating! I’m trying to get home to pick my children up and get held up by people
letting endless cars out of a side road.

What I find interesting is that on here a few months ago, an op was raging at a driver who pushed his way in (then ashamed at her reaction).... almost all replies were saying "well the traffic has to flow on both roads, you have to approach it like a zipper, the driver thar pushed in had a right to his space too etc"

So now I'm thinking that must answers in aibu will be aiming at contradicting the original post.

As an aside, the traffic on the road that I let in wasn't a tiny side road, it is one of the main roads through the town and it gets backed up and has a knock on effect really easily.

Anyway, I realise now that I shouldn't have posted here as some of the answers show that nobody knows the nuances of either situation. My fault.

Oh and there were no traffic lights ahead of me. Good knows it is irritating when you miss the light because of loads of people joining in front of you. Honestly the two queues crawl forward at slow steady pace, so in this instance, 2 cars would NOT have made a big difference over one

When I've got somebody in a rush or being impatient behind me I go slower

You are in the wrong here. I do not like driving near people that stop for all and sundry to get past first. Next thing you know, you’re late to your destination, as Google Maps understandable doesn’t take into account drivers mentally creating their own “give way” signs. Sometimes it’s okay to just let the flow of traffic naturally occur without thinking you need to do your good deed for the day and let everyone through.

It’s not a few second delay to the person behind you…how do you know where they are going or how many sets of traffic lights they will encounter?

Blimey, I thought it would be a given that you weren't being unreasonable😮

Then I saw the vote.

It does depend. We have horrendous traffic near us atm and it winds me up when I’ve been waiting for 45 mins already and people start letting in the cars that have only just driven up to their junctions. I’d never beep though.

Totally irrational.

If the drivers behind you have the legal right of way over people in a side road, how are they being irrational?

People who stop in doorways/entrances/exits/ at the end of an escalator are a pain in the arse. Keep moving so you are not blocking other people!

God it’s so depressing that the drivers posting here don’t understand that it’s not ‘kind’ or some kind of ‘etiquette’ or demonstrating Mother Theresa levels of bounty to inconvenience one set of people to benefit another. People aren’t ‘impatient’ - they’re rightfully frustrated at the lack of control of some random holding them back to give the road space - to which they have the lawful right of way - to others. One car each at a push - to ease the flow. But two or more is just taking the piss out of the folks in the queue behind you.

One is fine when there is a queue on both roads, but not if the other road is empty and the car has just driven up - they have to do a bit of waiting.

Letting two out though is breaking a fairly widely accepted unwritten rule and is not going to be ok with the vast majority of drivers. I’d be peeved but wouldn’t beep.

You aren’t wrong though that patience in general is dying out in the UK.

She had a meeting to get to. Which part of that is difficult to understand.

Many a thread has been started by people like you saying how rude someone was to you. Now you know why.

Err... the part where I say it was a 90 second delay?

So when you're in a mad impatient stressed rush you're happy for anyone in front of you to let two people in? I don't understand why you would give those two people you've let in priority over the people already in the queue behind you? I understand letting one in if they've been waiting a while, but I wouldn't be impressed either if you then let someone else in. What if everyone did that? The people at the back of the queue would be waiting forever.

I think you've found all the impatient people here op 🤣🤣🤣