Women keep asking my DH for hugs

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Slightly lighthearted.

Home from a night out with my DH where a woman approached him in the bar and asked if she could give him a hug. He politely declined. I was right near him, talking to a friend (we were out with a small group), but didn’t feel the need to say/do anything- he handled it well.

This happens regularly. Not every week, but certainly several times a year.

For some context, my DH has autism and doesn’t really like people in his personal space so I’m quite confident that he’s not hugging women when I’m not around. He’s definitely not a flirt so I’m also certain that he’s not given some form of subtle come on.

I’ve seen it so many times. Literally a woman (typically seems to be mid to late-twenties) will come over and say something like “I know this is weird but I just wanted to come over and give you a hug”.

Is this a thing that women of that age group do now on a night out?

My friend was agog.

My autistic ex also got offered lots of hugs. Didn't look sad, must have been a vibe he gave off to 'rescuer-type' people 🤷‍♀️

@Getdone "looks special" "SN look" na come on, you're not that stupid, plleeeeassee tell me you're not being real here.

BF is huge and gives good hugs.
My friends, his friends & their random kids all ask for hugs off him.
My petite friend K hugs him like there's no tomorrow and calls him 'a big cuddly teddy bear'!
Something avuncular about him makes girls/youngsters feel safe.

He doesn't really get any drunken flirty hugs, tho one outrageous friend of ours grabs his bum but then she grabs my bum to so lol to it.

Sorry if I've used the wrong words, how should I describe the way that some people with autism look different that would suggest they might be vulnerable?

'SN look' Are you ok?

@Getdone as you're the poster that also kicked off a pubic hair thread in the last 24 hours, I have come to my conclusions and am relieved!

Jesus fucking Christ.

How do you actually function in society?

What a fucking cunty thing to say.

Hmm never heard of that before.

I honestly can't help but I've got to admit I'm intrigued so going to come back to this later.

Only little suggestion I've got is ( when I was younger and probably flirting), I was very much drawn to men with closely shaven heads of hair. Yonks ago and I doubt I ever acted on it in the way you're describing. Probably not relevant here. I'm curious to see what explanations you get. Good luck, OP.

How bizarre. He must have a very sad face indeed…

People have a strange urge to feed me, so frequently get served ridiculously large portions in restaurants, cafes and bakeries. Frequently embarrassing if I'm with someone else and we both order the same thing and they give me twice as much.

I like free things as much as anyone, but I'm not extra hungry or malnourished, although I am very small.

Some people provoke weird reactions in others, I've given up trying to explain it.

Is he sat looking sad not speaking to anyone? They have empathy for him for some reason. How odd.

Well, from your description, I'd certainly want a hug from him!

Women have asked me if they can kiss my husband on multiple occasions in bars! Always older women... So strange but very funny. I assumed he looked like he needed mothering. He's beautiful but a bit dishevelled and droopy eyed. Maybe your husband is similar!

What is with the surge of 'my husband is so irresistible to other women' threads lately?

I promise you, he's not

My DH soo attracts women that want physical contact with him. Whenever we’re in a bar women stand much too close, put their arms around his waist ,stroke his forearms if he has rolled up shirt sleeves, and there have even been several bum grabbing incidents amongst my female friends around him. Gets on my nerves actually.

The women are just attention seekers. Your husband should decline.

Sounds like one of those silly trends going around, groups of young women daring each other to go up to a stranger and ask for a hug/give hug. He must look nice and harmless and safe. Having a partner nearby may add to the safety or risk factor, I don’t know which 😂

If you had read the thread, you’ll see that I said he was standing up, holding a pint, chatting to a friend about football, and laughing.

And the approaches aren’t “oh it looks like you need a hug, let me give you one”, it’s more of a “would you mind hugging me?”

It seems like the OP wants everyone to marvel at her partner because young women for some inexplicable reason are drawn to him.

Is he a labrador on the quiet?

Does he look like a famous person?

Is he Richard Gere?

Maybe there's been something on tick tok or somewhere about how to chat up people by asking for a hug and these women are just trying it out ? It's an effective way to jump several stages of intimacy and I'm sure some people would be happy to oblige