To be a bit annoyed at this?

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My DD (8) was having her hours screen time today and playing Roblox with her friend while they FaceTimed each other.

Dd's friend gave her a virtual gift on the game, then asked for it back. When DD refused, her friend kicked off and her dad sent my DD a voice note asking to give it back as DD's friend was very upset.

As far as I can gather this was a gift. I know with kids it's 6 of one and half a dozen of the other, but AIBU at being annoyed that DD's friend's dad voice noted her? And should my DD have given the gift back? She did by the way, more so because she had been told off by the dad.

All this is so trivial, I know, but I just can't help being upset at DD's friends behaviour.

I'd be fuming at an adult male voice noting my 8 year old. Why he thought it was appropriate is puzzling. Good that the Mum was horrified and understood how you felt.

@DisneyChops yes dear lord is right!! Because you assume I’m being OTT but the stats tell us otherwise unfortunately

It’s a bit heavy handed of the Dad but I have to say I dont think it’s a suitable activity for 8 year olds. Heavily monitored or not.

Wtaf 😳

The dad is ridiculous

Helicopter parent. Why can't another adult talk to your child? If you allow her to go on Roblox and FaceTime the you are allowing her to engage with older activities and pedo's. Roblox is a hive for grooming and how exactly is she FaceTiming? On Facebook? You are a helicopter parent who can't handle other adults correcting her behaviour, even if it was a stupid reason. Should all adults run what they say past you before they talk to her? The face he can voice note your daughter to begin with is a dodgy red flag

I was thinking the same.

"Huge red flag"? Really???

I'd save that descriptor for something a bit more serious than an overzealous dad overstepping the line a little. 🙄

Its not just a random adult male though. It was a parent trying to sort out a friendship issue for his DD after OP told her DD to hang up rather than telling her to just give the "gift" back.

YANBU it’s way OTT for something so trivial.

FYI be careful with the FaceTiming thing as when my DD first got it she’d call her friend without me knowing a couple of times and I was singing or saying private things and the child and their parents probably heard me 😳

Jesus Christ

He’s BU and I think m your DD shouldn’t be FaceTiming friends and gaming.

Something similar happened to me when I was a teenager (around 13/14). My whole group of friends told me one of the girls in our group spent lots of time behind my back being nasty about me. We weren't that kind of friendship group so I believed the rest of the girls. I stopped speaking to this girl and her dad ended up emailing me. It was awful that he got involved and the stuff he said to me was not nice - accusing my friends of lying and that I needed to grow up.
Really inappropriate and I won't forget it. The dad of your DD's friend is completely out of order.

I've had messages from parents raging because my dc has 'stole' their childs loot on Fort Nite. When a player dies, another player can pick up their weapons or whatever. Like, it's part and parcel of the game... Needless to say we just laughed at them and ignored the message.

Hopefully (or maybe not hopefully 🤣) the friends father will leave you a voice note apologising for him not being mature enough to make his child responsible for her actions and dealing with the consequences of them, ie. Don't gift what you want to keep for yourself or be clear if she's just lending something over and expects it back.

And even when DD reaches 18+ she must have proper supervision on FaceTime was the bit that got me 😂

What the fuck are you talking about? What exactly do you think the OP’s SS did wrong out of interested that needed ‘correcting’?

She couldn’t have stolen the virtual item - the DD’s friend actively gave it to her.

Facetime is through the iPad. Not Facebook.

If it was my child, I'd have told them to give it back.

Yes, it MAY have been a gift, but they're 8 and it's not your DD birthday. She isn't entitled to anything.

So if a little girl gave away something briefly that she now wants back, of course your DD should have given it back.

Dad should have rung you, but 8 year old should not be facetiming anyone and you know Roblox has a history of undesirables frequenting it right?

You know Roblox has some of the tightest security settings on apps right? If parental controls and settings are used then it's absolutely fine. My DD couldn't even message her friend on it with an 'x' because the security settings filter them out.

I also think 8 is far too young to allow face timing as you don't know who else is in the room with your daughter's friend. Maybe in ten years time or so... and with proper supervision

Haha, these replies just get better. No face timing til their 18...and still supervised. 😆Good luck to some of you parents with views like this.

I despair.