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to want the prize I won??

463 replies

Dogue · 09/12/2022 07:28

In the grand scheme of things I’m probably being petty, but this has really annoyed me -

our village had a Christmas fair last Saturday. On Monday I had a missed call from a mobile number which turned out to be the organisers of the event. I rang back and she said was ringing to tell me I’d won a prize, but that she was out at the moment so didn’t have details but would ring me back in half an hour to let me know.

I didn’t hear back from her on Monday so I called again on Wednesday (didn’t get a chance on Tuesday) and she said the same again - someone would call me back later with details of what I’d won and how to collect.

by Thursday I still hadn’t heard from them so I texted the number about it. I got the reply: “sorry, all prizes had to be collected by Wednesday. We can give you a bottle of Prosecco as a consolation”

I’m so annoyed that I wasn’t given any opportunity to collect my prize on time. From memory the only thing I think I put my phone number down for was when my 6 year old entered the ‘guess how many sweets in the jar’ so I was really excited to tell him he had won. I’m not really bothered about having a massive jar of jellies in my house, but if that’s what we’ve won then it’s what I want! When I told her this she said she would make sure there’s a consolation prize for him too, but that’s no use really as it means I don’t get the loveliness of telling him his guess was the winner.

obviously there are much bigger things to worry about in the world right now, but it’s a bit shit and terrible organisation right??

OP posts:
SmileyClare · 09/12/2022 10:16

Why are people calling it “prise”? Grin

It’s “prize”

As you were

JustCakeInDrag · 09/12/2022 10:18

MumEeeee · 09/12/2022 09:35

As a Ukrainian family I think I have my own excellent fundraising idea:
For a small fee one of us will attend trips or events organised and attended by people who’ve annoyed you this year guilt tripping saying ‘don’t you know there’s a war in Ukraine…?’. Say their Christmas dinner, and we’ll shout ‘There’s a war on! Yet you sit idle?! Stuffing your face?’ Etc.
Proceeds to Ukraine.

For an extra donation could you please wear national dress and mutter darkly in Ukrainian?

SinnerBoy · 09/12/2022 10:26

I think she's probably given it to a friend.

WillMellorsHips · 09/12/2022 10:26

I think she's probably eaten them all.

catsonahottinroof · 09/12/2022 10:28

This would annoy me too and we have no idea what the motivations of the volunteer were, or that she was 'trying her best'. Good point about where the prosecco has come from as well.

DownToTheSeaAgain · 09/12/2022 10:30

catsonahottinroof · 09/12/2022 10:28

This would annoy me too and we have no idea what the motivations of the volunteer were, or that she was 'trying her best'. Good point about where the prosecco has come from as well.

There's being annoyed and then there's threatening legal action by quoting (incorrect) statute.

It's. A. Jar. Of. Sweets. FFS.

FloresApparuerunt · 09/12/2022 10:34

MyNameisMathilda · 09/12/2022 10:10

I can't believe people are making such a strop about this. It is exactly this kind of behaviour referring to laws etc which put people off volunteering for events like this. FGS it's a jar of sweets.

I should hope the sort of cheeky fucker who nicks somebody else's tombola prize WOULD be put off helping. Being a volunteer isn't carte blanche to do whatever you want to and screw the people who've paid their money to you.

Toottooot · 09/12/2022 10:42

I’m pretty sure if someone posted they ran a raffle, winner did not claim within 3 days so would they be ok to keep the prize or do something else with it, all you posting saying it’s not a big deal would be frothing.

CitizenofMoronia · 09/12/2022 10:44

Get on the local facebook page and out them!

Bookworm20 · 09/12/2022 10:45

FGS it's a jar of sweets.

Its not really about it just being a jar of sweets though.

Its about a little child who excitedly entered a competition and in his little head that was the best bloody prize on the planet.

He won! And then he wasn't given his prize.

knittingaddict · 09/12/2022 10:46

DownToTheSeaAgain · 09/12/2022 08:50

There's a war in Ukraine, we are in the middle of a profound cost of living crisis and you want a beleaguered volunteer to magic up a few sweets she almost certainly doesn't have any more.

Perspective?

I'm sorry that you can't care about more than one thing at a time. Thank goodness others possess that ability.

CitizenofMoronia · 09/12/2022 10:46

DownToTheSeaAgain · 09/12/2022 10:30

There's being annoyed and then there's threatening legal action by quoting (incorrect) statute.

It's. A. Jar. Of. Sweets. FFS.

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Technically its theft or obtaining monies by deception, she. paid. for. a .ticket. to. win. a. prize. that. she. has. been. deprived. of. FFS

DownToTheSeaAgain · 09/12/2022 10:50

@CitizenofMoronia the response is completely disproportionate to the problem.

FaazoHuyzeoSix · 09/12/2022 10:52

Fundraising events run by people with no integrity are not successful in the long run. If OP doesn't get her prize this time, then the fundraising event is a sham, there is no reason for people to "buy tickets" for any kind of prize event because they can have no trust for the organisers that any prize will actually be awarded.

If they show honesty and integrity by making sure that the prize correctly goes to the right person, then their future fundraising is more successful because they have shown themselves to be trustworthy.

YANBU to complain OP. If they are willing to give you a bottle of prosecco as a consolation, the person who made the cockup can spend their own money to the value of a bottle of prosecco on creating a new sweets prize by getting that much sweets from the Asda pick-n-mix aisle, and then they can have the prosecco (assuming that they offered this as they have a leftover bottle of crap prosecco that the official "winner" of didn't want)

BringBackFoilWrappers · 09/12/2022 10:59

@ABBAsnumberonefan

Actually a quick Google jar of sweets and most of them average 20 quid.
You can get a bottle of prosecco for around a tenner.
Either way her ds can't drink prosecco!
I'd be asking for another jar of sweets.

SmartWatch · 09/12/2022 11:03

yeah, me too. Would DS recognise if it was a different jar? Was it one they'd made up or one they put together themselves? I would ask them where did you get the jar of sweets from and how much did it cost s unfortunately you immediately told DS he had won as you were all so excited. Turn the guilt way up. Ask if you can have the £10 the prosecco is worth to put towards buying a new jar of sweets etc. I bet they just decided to keep it (for anther event?) and it will magically appear?

MrKlaw · 09/12/2022 11:17

if OP was told on Wednesday they'd get back to them, but later told the time limit was Wednesday, then its a total balls up. Those saying maybe it went to the second prize winner or was redrawn - but then it'd take longer than Wednesday.

Having a time limit for coming forward/responding to communication is reasonable. Having a time limit for the Organisers to actually deliver the prize is nonsense. Clearly OP was in touch nice and early so they need to cough up some sweeties.

WeAreTheHeroes · 09/12/2022 11:18

OP the lottery laws are not made up, the pp who posted about them was incorrect as to their application to the guess the number of sweets in the jar competition entered at the fair.

SmileyClare · 09/12/2022 11:18

A jar of sweets..£20

God no; make up your own jar for a few quid..

Sweet jar (Poundland) £1
Tub of sweet shop favourites (most supermarkets) £3
Penny sweets (Tesco) £1
Haribo large bag £1
Total £6

Funkyslippers · 09/12/2022 11:21

billy1966 I don't really understand this story - Marie won first prize, turned up and collected it, so what was the problem?

LadyWithLapdog · 09/12/2022 11:26

@Funkyslippers Marie should have won the fancy tennis racket. Instead, in egregious display of nepotism and small village committee corruption, it went to the committee member’s daughter 😂😂

LadyWithLapdog · 09/12/2022 11:27

OP, you’ll get more currency out of this as it stands. It makes for a better dinner party story than if you’d been given the actual prize :)

whatsup00 · 09/12/2022 11:33

Don't feel like a tit. It doesn't seem very fair at all. They shouldn't run competitions if they don't honour the prizes, as like someone else said what happens to the prize after Wednesday, does it evaporate? I'd want to know 1. what the prize was 2. where it has gone. They shouldn't run things if they don't give out the prizes, should ask for donations instead.

whatsup00 · 09/12/2022 11:35

Imagine if I ran a raffle and didn't give out the prizes and made up some weird rule about you have to claim within 48h, even though I didn't declare that when people entered. I'd be called a scammer and get into all kinds of trouble!

Murasakispillowbook · 09/12/2022 11:36

MumEeeee · 09/12/2022 09:35

As a Ukrainian family I think I have my own excellent fundraising idea:
For a small fee one of us will attend trips or events organised and attended by people who’ve annoyed you this year guilt tripping saying ‘don’t you know there’s a war in Ukraine…?’. Say their Christmas dinner, and we’ll shout ‘There’s a war on! Yet you sit idle?! Stuffing your face?’ Etc.
Proceeds to Ukraine.

This wins the interweb today!