Particularly at the moment with the cost of living and all that.
I have just counted up the secret santas (workplaces for DH and I; school class; hobby groups for DCs etc etc) that my family are being asked to participate in and it amounts to about 8 requests with an upper limit 'suggested' of around £10 per request in total.
I can afford it (through gritted teeth as I don't particularly want to piss £80 away) but there are people who cannot. I and another colleague have already offered to purchase a mutual colleague's secret santa gift on her behalf as she was in tears about a workplace one. (opting out is technically an option, but our workplace is fairly toxic and she would be targeted if she is not seen to participate).
Surely with the cost of living crisis that we are all in right now there is a little more understanding that it might 'just' be a tenner but it is too much for many? Not least when you add it to everything else.
(Don't get me started on the secret santa plan for the DCs class. I feel we have to participate in this otherwise my children will feel mortified to not be able to put their gift in. Again it is a school where most likely everyone can afford it, but I certainly don't assume this.).
Just venting, and I am sure I am not BU! (Although possibly very grinch-like)