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Just seen notification about a case of Scarlet Fever in my DD's Nursery

44 replies

Tothemoonandbackx · 06/12/2022 20:27

My DD's Nursery like to post about things they have done during the day on Facebook, mainly pictures, so I only tend to look when my DD has been in on her mornings, Wed-Fri. The nursery popped up on my newsfeed saying that they have had a confirmed case of Scarlet Fever. This was only posted yesterday. I have had no other communication from the Nursery, no txt, phone call, email etc to state this has happened, just seen it by chance. I know there are cases of A Strep going around in my local area. I know you should keep children from school for at least 24 hours after antibiotic treatment has started (NHS Guidelines) but would I be totally unreasonable to keep her home this week whilst there has been a positive case??? She only goes in on the mornings 8:30-1:00 , and I have tomorrow morning and all day Friday off from work anyway. I know there may be a chance she could just catch it from somewhere else, but keeping her from somewhere where there has definitely been a case in the last 24 hours wouldn't be bad would it???

OP posts:
Saltywalruss · 06/12/2022 20:30

No it wouldn't be unreasonable to keep her off at all

Very unreasonable of the nursery to only give out this information on FB though.

SBAM · 06/12/2022 20:30

It’s up to you. I kept my son off for the last day before Christmas last winter because they emailed that norovirus was going round and I didn’t want that coming home with him in time for Christmas.

ListenLinda · 06/12/2022 20:31

I was told today when I picked DS up that they had had a confirmed case in his room & they had sent 9 children home with temps today.
I don’t know what to do for the best OP either.

carefulcalculator · 06/12/2022 20:32

if i could keep her off I would.

7eleven · 06/12/2022 20:32

I think it you can, I’d keep him home.

7eleven · 06/12/2022 20:33

Sorry, her

onemorerose · 06/12/2022 20:33

I think i would keep mine off in that situation

CanYouFeelMyHeart · 06/12/2022 20:35

I'm finding it really interesting that parents of lockdown babies/toddlers seem to be very much more open to self-imposing isolation due to viruses.

Not a criticism of you at all OP, I was just reflecting on the number of similar threads in the last week.

For the record, no, personally it wouldn't even have crossed my mind.

Cuppasoupmonster · 06/12/2022 20:37

@CanYouFeelMyHeart thats because the onslaught of viruses and bugs since lockdown has been a lot worse than previous years and has absolutely hammered our little ones.

Magssss · 06/12/2022 20:39

My sons are at 2 separate primary schools and both have emailed saying they have a number of cases. I think realistically this will be the case for the whole of winter/early spring so I’m going to keep sending them in and just be extremely vigilant checking for any symptoms. Get antibiotics immediately if they show signs. I suspect if you took her out every time there was a case she’d be in and out constantly for weeks. But I do completely understand the worry!

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 06/12/2022 20:40

If you're off anyway it's not going to affect your job and it's not going to affect your daughter like random time off school is then why not?

HeBeaverandSheBeaver · 06/12/2022 20:40

It's only nursery school so if your already off def keep her home.

I sat this a non worried mum of teens as well

PronounsBaby · 06/12/2022 20:43

Op I would definitely keep her off & @ListenLinda I would too if it's possible....

CanYouFeelMyHeart · 06/12/2022 20:43

Cuppasoupmonster · 06/12/2022 20:37

@CanYouFeelMyHeart thats because the onslaught of viruses and bugs since lockdown has been a lot worse than previous years and has absolutely hammered our little ones.

Yeah I guess that's part of it. Also I think it's more the cultural norm when you've only parented in a pandemic climate.

carefulcalculator · 06/12/2022 20:43

CanYouFeelMyHeart · 06/12/2022 20:35

I'm finding it really interesting that parents of lockdown babies/toddlers seem to be very much more open to self-imposing isolation due to viruses.

Not a criticism of you at all OP, I was just reflecting on the number of similar threads in the last week.

For the record, no, personally it wouldn't even have crossed my mind.

I would have done it prior to COVID for an identified outbreak of norovirus!

I think there are far too many people who almost deliberately expose their children.

The middle ground is avoid when you know someone has something nasty, accept routine germs circulate and get on with it the rest of the time.

Young children historically were not in nursery, suppose that made it different.

surreygirl1987 · 06/12/2022 20:44

Not unreasonable, but totally your call. I wouldn't keep my sons off (actually, I didn't- there's been all sorts circulating at my sons' nursery over the last couple of weeks and mine have gone in), but as a parent you have every right to keep them off if you want.

CanYouFeelMyHeart · 06/12/2022 20:45

I would keep them off only if they were actually sick. I don't know anyone who keeps their kids off 'in case'. Like I say, I think there's been a shift in thinking between generations of parents.

Catdaft · 06/12/2022 20:46

I would definitely keep them off

PronounsBaby · 06/12/2022 20:47

My mind went to the Strep A cases which are killing children at the moment. It starts as scarlet fever...

ofwarren · 06/12/2022 20:51

PronounsBaby · 06/12/2022 20:47

My mind went to the Strep A cases which are killing children at the moment. It starts as scarlet fever...

No, it starts as Strep and turns into Scarlet Fever.

CanYouFeelMyHeart · 06/12/2022 20:52

And in any case is serious for a vanishingly small percentage of children.

Cuppasoupmonster · 06/12/2022 20:53

Mums whose kids didn’t go to nursery from the age of 1 just don’t understand what it’s like. Not just the worrying, but the weeks upon weeks of broken sleep, the endlessly cancelled plans, working the week to end the Friday with yet another virus. DD’s weight plummeted when we were going through this and she was a bag of bones after being in nursery for a year - not because of anything underlying but just the constant onslaught of bugs meant she barely fought off one before coming down with another and her appetite took a long hit. I’m sick of people with their breezy ‘calpol up and get on with it’, they’ve got no idea.

NameChangeLifeChange · 06/12/2022 20:56

Young children historically were not in nursery, suppose that made it different.

True although my 92 year old nanny who was a primary school teacher said they had incredibly high levels of sickness in the early school years instead. She remembers she had a class of 12 in her village school, 5 different year groups, and over winter it wasn’t unusual to combine all the remaining kids in each class to form 15 or so total school children who weren’t off with illness. Mothers didn’t really work so would be able to keep them off school. You have to build up immunity at some point.

CanYouFeelMyHeart · 06/12/2022 20:57

Cuppasoupmonster · 06/12/2022 20:53

Mums whose kids didn’t go to nursery from the age of 1 just don’t understand what it’s like. Not just the worrying, but the weeks upon weeks of broken sleep, the endlessly cancelled plans, working the week to end the Friday with yet another virus. DD’s weight plummeted when we were going through this and she was a bag of bones after being in nursery for a year - not because of anything underlying but just the constant onslaught of bugs meant she barely fought off one before coming down with another and her appetite took a long hit. I’m sick of people with their breezy ‘calpol up and get on with it’, they’ve got no idea.

You think other parents don't know how it feels to muddle through winters with bugs left and right?

Numbat2022 · 06/12/2022 20:57

PronounsBaby · 06/12/2022 20:47

My mind went to the Strep A cases which are killing children at the moment. It starts as scarlet fever...

Yes, that is what everyone is thinking about... 🙄

I know what you mean OP, it is tempting to keep them off. And yes, I think it seems more do-able pandemic parents because - well, we had to cope it already. But I do think it's going to be almost impossible to avoid this winter, so probably pointless.