To just buy DD boys clothes?

[Shannny]

DD is 2.5
Whenever I take her shopping I ask her what clothes she wants and she always chooses boys clothes, boys pyjamas, boys hoodies and jumpers etc - I’ve been trying to encourage her with the girls stuff (not sure why, just naturally wanted to buy her girls clothes) but it’s becoming an “argument” so to speak everytime. At weekend I bought her a load of boys clothes she chose and we had so many comments from friends and family saying how lovely she looked and how much they suited her! So now I’m thinking I might as well just buy her boys clothes as default.

I know it’s not unreasonable as such but it still feels a bit odd to me

Has anyone else been through this?

lighthearted btw! I know there are bigger things to worry about etc etc

I always wore boys clothes growing up as I just liked the colours better. I still generally wear Mens hoodies and t shirts as I hate the fit of womens clothes, I like them baggy too.

@BlibBlabBlob but some women do want to dress like that as thats how they feel comfortable, that is not wrong either
Mens jeans would be awful on me and not fit at all and have to buy certain womens jeans
But my jeans have same pockets as my dh mens jeans?
People should wear what they like and what they are comfortable in but also not judge others

We've purchased from the girls section for our son. He likes sparkly things and rainbows and bright colours. Whatever makes her happiest should be fine!

At 2 they barely control their own bowels, let alone have the ability to make decisions like this.

Mine had sensory issues and putting her in clothes she didn't like was painful.

To this day she wears the same as at 2; leggings, oversized hoodie, t-shirt with dinosaurs, anime or science on it. Men's L and up. Even though she's a women's S.

I never fought. Why bother?

😂😂. So true!

My son wore some pretty brightly coloured - red, orange, bright blue, yellow - clothes, so I don't think they're that bland.

Girls clothes tend to more pink/purple and sparkly.

Are we letting toddlers pick their own clothes now?

Mine wore what I chose at that age. I went for durable, practical and comfortable.

I was the opposite way round.
I absolutely hate, loathe & detest pink. I don't own any pink clothes & don't have any pink in the house.

The "pinkification" of girls, particularly young girls used to drive me mad.
I bought for DTs from the boys dept and both wore most things.
At PPs have said boys clothes are better made, tougher and have ever useful pockets.

Nope.

It helps them keep their clothes on.

I don't see the issue with letting them pick. Obviously you guide them to what's weather appropriate/activity appropriate but other than that it's all good.

Why wouldn’t you let them pick if they’re able to show a preference?

Why wouldn't I let a toddler pick their own new clothes?

Because a toddler isn't always capable of picking durable, practical and comfortable clothes.

Because taking a toddler clothes shopping would have made my life so much harder and ditto letting them look online.

Because my kids when toddlers battled me on enough, so feck was I going to add clothes to the list of battles.

No problem with this. I dislike the overly gendered clothes though. My son is in aged 7-8 now and I'm disappointed to see so much stuff emblazoned with gaming characters and logos. You won't be so keen on it then!

True that boys sections are better for lovely warm fleecy jogging bottoms, but girls sections have warmer pyjamas and slipper socks.

Heartening to see all the “clothes are clothes” comments. Everyone at any age should wear whatever they want, and hopefully one day we’ll all be able to do that without judgement 😊

That's a fair point, I guess I just get a bit sad and worried when I see teenage girls in really revealing clothing. I wonder who they're really doing that for, given it's rarely comfortable clothing. Our 14 year old neighbour puts on thick makeup and false eyelashes and fake tan and then pouts on TikTok while vaping, this is an extreme case of course but it makes me sad that this way of presenting yourself is seen as desirable by not just young adults but also children.

Are your jeans pockets REALLY the same as your DH's though? There will be the same number and positioning, but the main hip pockets are usually much smaller (shallower) on women's jeans. You can't fit even a small phone in them safely. Whereas on men's jeans you can fit your whole wallet in one pocket and a large smartphone in the other.

@BlibBlabBlob yes they are but we both tend to buy next jeans certain styles , if mine are a tiny bit smaller at most, but then he is 6ft im 5 ft so length of jeans is a little different .
I have big boobs and I dress to show them at times as personally I like them and my best asset, i give zero shits if men look ( not on full show) its just boobs
But we are designed to be attracted to bodies as well thats just a simple biological fact really

Eh?
your asking a 2 yr old?

im all for self autonomy but surely you want clothes that have hard wearing bums and knees I have three teens and I don’t ever remember this being a thing, must be forgetful already

it was oshkosh dungarees and random stuff, they only expressed an interest in their clothes around 12/13

My DD is now 8. From about 3/4 she stopped wanting to wear skirts and dresses. She now naturally chooses 90% clothes from the boys section. We look at all clothes but she definitely has her own style which tends to be in the boys. Eventually family and friends catch on not to buy clothes as gifts of a certain style. Never been an issue, schools are now very good at allowing girls to wear trousers and shorts.

Yanbu. My dd is nearly 2 and many of her clothes are “boys”. She especially loves a farm theme hoody from next and sings old Mac Donald every time she wears it. I remember my ds climbing on sone rocks at a farm park in shorts, t shirt and sturdy sandals and a girl trying to climb to wearing ballet shoes and a dress and her mum calling her off. I vowed then if I ever had a daughter to put her in practical clothes as much as possible! M&S have some good neutrals - patterned animals tracksuits etc they are lovely and usually 3 for 2. My 5yo niece wears clothes that are definitely in the girls side but practical like denim short dungarees and tights and trainers.

I buy both for my daughters. I like plainer denim and some longer shorts which are easier to get in the boys section. I also like some boys styles. My 7 year old has only recently started caring what she wears. When I was a kid I refused any "girly" clothes till I was a teenager and have a lot of blue hoodies now and hardly ever wear a skirt (but do like them now).

Yeah, clothes are clothes like other posters have said. My mum and I used to argue all the time over clothes as I always preferred boys clothes, ever since I was old enough to point to what I wanted. She’s happy, people think she looks great and you get all the benefit 😊. Plus, having agency in her own choices from such an early age will be fantastic for her self-esteem and confidence as she grows up. It’s a small thing but crucial.

May I ask which brands you buy from?

I've often considered buying mens jumpers but never sure where to go as I'm on the petite side!

My mum bought me what I wanted & they were boys' clothes. I grew out of it but still don't dress overly girly day to day. Go with it.

My DD is 4 and has always worn a mix of stuff from the girls and boys sections her whole life so far. She likes stuff in both sections. She occasionally has adults or children missex her or ask her sex, as she also has very short hair. But the hair is her choice too. She likes what she likes, be that a dress with a Spiderman sweatshirt on top or whatever.

I grew up in the seventies. There wasn't so much difference between boys' and girls' kids clothes then. We definitely didn't wear dresses and skirts except for school and parties. Most clothes were brown! I find it weird to see little girls at the park in skirts and dresses, I worry they'd get caught in stuff when swinging and climbing etc.