Hi,
Long time lurker, first time poster here. Sorry for the essay but I want to get as much information out as possible.
Back story: I've been messaging a guy for a while now and we've met twice. The last time we met things was the beginning of November due to a minor op he was having. He wanted to "take things to the next level" away from dating after that date but I didn't feel comfortable as I thought it was too soon. He seemed lovely and we get on great but I've had terrible choice in men in the past so cautious about rushing in to anything.
Now: Fast forward to now. Over the weekend, he said he was feeling well enough after his op to see me if I was free. I was, so we arranged to meet up this morning. However last night I think I ate something dodgy, I was awake most of the night with stomach cramps, being sick and with a bad head. I told him briefly at around 9pm that I wasn't feeling to great but would keep him updated. I really struggled with the pain until I finally fell asleep at 5.45 this morning. I messaged him beforehand again at 4.50am to say that I had not been able to sleep because I felt so awful so definitely think I wouldn't be able to make it today. (I know it was late to message but didn't want to end up finally going to sleep and not confirming I wasn't 100%)
The issue: I have just woke up to a slurry of messages and calls that turned pretty passive aggressive. First few messages asked me twice how I was feeling (so he clearly recieved my 4.50am message), then a few messages to say he was on his way to the meeting point, then I got bombarded and accused of messing him around, wasting his time, women are all the same, etc. It feels completely out of character for how he's interacted with me this far but I'm baffled as to why he still turned up when 1. I'd told him I wasn't well and 2. I hadn't responded to any of his messages this morning because I was asleep.
Am I the unreasonable one here? What are your thoughts and what I do now?