They should use both?

[SpinningFloppa]

Dd has two surnames (mine and exes not hyphenated) when I registered her I actually asked which way round to put the names so mine was the main one used (I was told to put mine first)

Well immediately I found out this wasn’t true as straight away everywhere started to drop my name, they will only refer to dd under exes name and mine isn’t mentioned at all.
When she started school I asked for her to he known under my name only (no contact with her father) and the school was happy to do that so that’s all dd has known her name as. However other places will not accept this but equally they are happy to drop mine 🤦🏻 but won’t accept her just being known as mine but are happy to call her under just her fathers surname. I’ve been told that because mine is first it’s actually considered a middle name even though it’s in the surname box on her birth certificate. Ex won’t agree to the name change despite not seeing her. I’ve been told a judge would never agree to a name change, aibu to expect places to at least use both? Should I hyped them so that both are included? Does anyone with a hyphenated surname find places only using one name? (Should add dd also wants her name changed as I have other children that have my surname)

My DS has 2 surnames, ignore the posters saying its not possible. However we always had problems with school etc only using one instead of both. I gave up in the end, and he was commonly known as Firstname 2ndSurname.

He now uses a 'stagename' or FB alias which is actually his Middlename 1stSurname. I am slightly concerned that if he was ever in an accident, we'd have no idea what name he was admitted to hospital under lol

I did do this, it’s them changing it to what’s on the birth certificate but I guess when they are reading it off they are not using both, I’ve asked to change it at the GP they said no only with a deed poll

Just to say when I fill in forms I never ever use her fathers name it’s official places using it as they are going off the bc

Remember @SpinningFloppa that NHS usually have people's full names on their records.
So Sophie Ann Smith Jones. With no hyphen to make it obvious Smith Jones is the surname they will assume she has 2 middle names. The same if her first name was Sophie Ann, they won't know that's all one name and will assume Ann is a middle name.

When coming through to call someone one from the waiting room it's usual just to take the 1st and last name and not to call all the names.
If it matters to you/her, for avoidance of confusion I would hyphenate. Whilst they won't drop a name the NHS will be able to add a hyphen as they are both her surnames and you have proof of that.