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DH has just come home pissed as a fart

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Longtimedead123 · 04/12/2022 03:12

So I’m going to divide opinions here but I’ve got to ask , AIBU to be absolutely delighted with this?
as a family we’ve had a really tough few years , DC has sen , he’s marvellous but hard work , we’ve had to learn to live around his needs. I’ve recently had a horrible health scare which is still ongoing and I genuinely have had to draw every strength I have to keep going with parenting and career .i have at times , been grumpy, dismissive and cold to DH. We’ve both been kind and civil to each other but definitely drifted apart . Anyway , DH has just come back from his works do, it’s pretty much the only night he goes out partying and I knew what to expect when I called him at 2:30 for a quick update and he sounded like he was melting as he slurred that he was nearly home .He’s home now , he’s been lovely and is talking absolute rubbish but with just enough wit that it’s making me collapse with laughter . We have just had the most wonderful , romantic connection in the kitchen because he’s in a hugely silly mood and so am I and for just an hour or so of talking nonsense and laughing all the struggles of SEN parenting , money , cancer and everything else have melted away and it’s been pure silliness just like when we were young and carefree. I know he’s gonna snore and fart like a bush pig all night but I’ve honestly just struggled to breath with laughter and I’m actually feeling like a whole person again.
i think I’ve just remembered how to banter and have fun . Thank you DH boss , I’m sorry if he’s been a pain / expensive ( he’s a 6’4 22st Viking so achieving this level of pissed won’t have been cheap ) tonight but I think he really needed this . So did I .

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CuntyMcBollocks · 04/12/2022 03:30

That's brilliant to hear OP! You've put a smile on my face just reading that. I hope you get more chances to laugh how you have done tonight.

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Longtimedead123 · 04/12/2022 03:43

Thank you . He’s honestly cracking me up , he’s talking utter shite and quoting terrible jokes but I’ve had to grab a glass of wine and get on his level . While he was out I had a good tidy up and a bath and I’m in my best pyjama bottoms and hoodie but my hair is drying fantastically and I feel alive and beautiful because we are laughing together . We have something to do tomorrow lunchtime so I might have to throw something in the air fryer shortly so we are fit to do that but my god . I can’t remember the last time we had fun. I’d forgotten about this bloke , I quite like him though 😂

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5YearsLeft · 04/12/2022 03:45

YANBU. Life is so short, but the days can feel endless sometimes. Anything that makes that happier and brighter, that makes you forget for a while the way that your stresses can feel like an extra 50kg you have to drag behind you 24/7, is a good thing. Maybe you and DH can find a way to capture what you had tonight, and have a “silly-just-for-us” night every month or two somehow, even with cancer, SEN parenting, careers, and everything else whirring around. Good luck, OP.

Ragingoverlife · 04/12/2022 03:46

This thread was not the content I expected! yay pissed up DH.

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Longtimedead123 · 04/12/2022 03:52

5YearsLeft · 04/12/2022 03:45

YANBU. Life is so short, but the days can feel endless sometimes. Anything that makes that happier and brighter, that makes you forget for a while the way that your stresses can feel like an extra 50kg you have to drag behind you 24/7, is a good thing. Maybe you and DH can find a way to capture what you had tonight, and have a “silly-just-for-us” night every month or two somehow, even with cancer, SEN parenting, careers, and everything else whirring around. Good luck, OP.

Exactly this. I feel like it’s been too long since we laughed and were silly. I’m going to look at our lives and try to be more like this somehow -Not drunk obviously , all the time -that’d just warrant a chat with a social worker 😂 … I mean just to be in the moment and worry less. I can make that happen . It’s mainly me that causes the stress because I’m the anxious one and I worry too much. I want us to laugh more , I remember it now, the better times and I’m bringing it back to this house .

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ComfortablyDazed · 04/12/2022 04:10

Such a lovely thread.

We don’t have anywhere near the struggles you do OP, but life has been quite a treadmill recently. DH and I are like a couple of soldiers in the trenches, side by side, just getting through it as best we can.

We’re just back from a weekend out of town, just the two of us, and it has been sooooo much fun. The weather’s been great, we caught up with some old friends, wandered around an area we used to live 10 years ago, and reminisced about how far we’ve come. We had an absolutely amazing lunch at an incredible restaurant, and then went to a huge concert which was just fab. But more than that, we just talked and talked and laughed and laughed. It was so good for soul, being like the old us, and just getting the reassurance that the old us is still there, hibernating, waiting for us to get to that next stage of life when it probably reappear on a more frequent basis.

It feels good to be alive right now.

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Longtimedead123 · 04/12/2022 04:20

ComfortablyDazed · 04/12/2022 04:10

Such a lovely thread.

We don’t have anywhere near the struggles you do OP, but life has been quite a treadmill recently. DH and I are like a couple of soldiers in the trenches, side by side, just getting through it as best we can.

We’re just back from a weekend out of town, just the two of us, and it has been sooooo much fun. The weather’s been great, we caught up with some old friends, wandered around an area we used to live 10 years ago, and reminisced about how far we’ve come. We had an absolutely amazing lunch at an incredible restaurant, and then went to a huge concert which was just fab. But more than that, we just talked and talked and laughed and laughed. It was so good for soul, being like the old us, and just getting the reassurance that the old us is still there, hibernating, waiting for us to get to that next stage of life when it probably reappear on a more frequent basis.

It feels good to be alive right now.

I love this . I’m so happy for you . We have the best times when we’re away . DS is a different child in the wild and we are much more ourselves away from work . I’m going to book a little break for us all really soon I think . I’m having a moment of clarity when family time is precious again , we never get a break from DS but we don’t need one when we are away from all other stresses . He’s getting dopey now but I’m still awake so I’ll perhaps have a browse at the cheap breaks on the coast and get him to agree while he’s still groggy first thing :) god love him . Keep living in the moment , it the answer x

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5YearsLeft · 04/12/2022 04:20

@Longtimedead123 Sounds like a wonderful plan. In previous times, I worried a lot. My MIL, on the other hand (bless her, I’m not sure she ever worried or planned ahead for anything), used to tell me if something didn’t matter in five years, it didn’t matter now, so I shouldn’t stress about these things (like being 10 minutes late for a random event - not even something time-sensitive). Now it turns out I won’t be here in five years. Do you know the amount of time I spent worrying about things I’ll now never ever need to worry about?!? It’s absolutely ridiculous! I wish I could have that time back and live it differently. If you have this opportunity to live YOURS differently, I hope it’s a great success and everything you want it to be!

MrsMorrisey · 04/12/2022 04:35

Yay. Have fun OP, wonderful to connect again.

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · 04/12/2022 04:39

It’s an old saying, but ‘laughter is the best medicine’

MistyRock · 04/12/2022 04:46

What a wonderful thread. 😍

Marvintheparanoid · 04/12/2022 04:57

Oh bless, such a lovely thread. You have given me ideas now. DH and I have been feeling so bogged down recently, with money troubles, elderly parents with health problems and teenage ASD DD. I wouldn't change my life for anything, but perhaps we need to remember the silly times a bit. Thank you for the thread OP.

differentnameforthis · 04/12/2022 05:09

I'm so pleased you have found fun again in what sounds like a difficult year.

Bless you both

DucklingDaisy · 04/12/2022 05:25

❤️ lovely thread, I’m really happy for you OP

maras3 · 04/12/2022 06:02

How lovely.
This has made my Christmas.
Peace and love to you and your family.🎅Flowers Wine Cake

mamabear715 · 04/12/2022 06:25

Bless you both, @Longtimedead123 :-)

mamabear715 · 04/12/2022 06:25

Hugs, @5YearsLeft

SuspiciousHedgehog · 04/12/2022 06:49

Hahaha naughty clickbait

Nice one OP

IAmTi · 04/12/2022 06:55

Aw this is so lovely

SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows · 04/12/2022 06:59

I’m another one who expected the thread to go a whole different way! That’s lovely OP. Warmed my heart ❤️DH & I are really going through it with DD13 plus my parents are in their 80s & DM has Parkinson’s & at the moment Covid. I have ongoing health problems which sometimes really bring me down. Add money worries to the mix & you have a lot of stress. All that said, DH can always make me laugh so much & we act like a couple of kids. Farting can be a real connection 🤣🤣🤣

WouldUShouldI · 04/12/2022 07:04

Amazing, I love this thread so much ❤️
Wishing you all the health, love, happiness and laughter in the world OP

PuttingDownRoots · 04/12/2022 07:12

Was really expecting something different!
We all need light relief in life, sounds like you need it more than most right now. I remember DH being delivered back to me before, literally in rags and all you can do is laugh.

Hope you don't suffer today! And find a nice holiday.

Zanatdy · 04/12/2022 07:16

What a lovely post. Try and get some date nights in, rediscover the man you met, and the women he met. Life can get in the way sometimes but I think it’s so important to find those connections again when life gets tough

PopcornAndPeanutsAndChocolateAndTea · 04/12/2022 07:20

LTB

Joke!!
Love this thread ❤️❤️❤️

iloveyankeecandle · 04/12/2022 07:20

Lovely to read and quite an eye opener. I can't remember the last time I laughed like that with hubby!