To join DH on work Xmas night out?

[Geog]

My DH is on his work Christmas night out tonight.

He's asked whether I'd like to join him after the meal for some drinks.

Aibu to think I'll look like a clingon? I'm happy to leave him to it but it would be nice to get out for a bit. I wfh and don't have many opportunities to go out for drinks. I also don't have any colleagues.

I'm not sure if this is why he's asked me. I also don't know if any other partners will be there.

i wouldnt

I wouldn’t, it sounds like he is just being nice and trying to give you something to do. If you haven’t been included in the meal then it’s not exactly a partners friendly sort of event.

I wouldn't

I wouldn’t, unless everyone else’s partners are going.

I wouldn’t either. I would plan a few drinks out with DH another evening instead.

I'd go. The meal will be over and everyone will be relaxed. I bet a few other partners will be meeting up for drinks afterwards as well. I think it's really nice that he's asked you. Go sort out a nice Christmassy outfit and enjoy your night out.

I wouldn't either, personally. But it's nice he asked you.

If other partners are going then it might be nice. Otherwise I wouldn't.

I would go. The asked my husband to join us for drinks after a meal once, I was relieved that he did because my colleagues were boring me to tears. We got really drunk and had a really good unplanned night.

Yes it would be good to know this! He said he forgot to ask 😆

Works dos are crap. He would obviously enjoy it more if you're there. If you want to go you should go.

If he asked and you want to go, then go. I bet other partners and friends are expected too.

Can you message him and ask?

I think it would be fine.

I would. There's no way my DP would invite me unless it was appropriate and I'd be welcome. He'd not put either of us through a situation where I'd be seen as weird or out of place for being there.
If your H is socially aware and can read a situation then I'd trust his judgement that it was fine.

I wouldn't. I did it once knew nobody, everyone ignored me and they all talked shop then got really, really smashed.

Most boring night of my life.

This is really common where I work, partners, friends, housemates, once dinner is over and we're all out drinking the more the merrier! One colleague is now dating another colleague's housemate because they met like this

You know him - is he likely to ask you along hoping you'll come or hoping you'll refuse? Do you know any of his colleagues?

I wouldn’t, why not go and meet him and head off somewhere else? You definitely can’t crash his work night out!

I would ask my husband if any other partners are going and if so and I wanted to go, I'd go.

If not, I wouldn't.

Quite simple really!

Of course I'd go! I don't see any issue at all, and it's nice DH asked.

And I also think it's nice to get to know your DH's work mates & maybe partners.

Whether other partners were going or not wouldn't affect my decision.

I would. Especially if I was bored or fancied a few drinks. It's a good opportunity of get out and you won't look like a cling on.

Partners/friends always come along on work party/nights out we have. Nobody bats an eyelid. It's actually nice to meet people's partners.

Who else is taking partners?

No. Don't do it. It's cringeworthy.