If you have been off the dating scene for 15 years plus what is stopping you put yourself back out there?

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For me it's varicose veins (mine), snoring (me) potential boredom (him). I can't imagine getting past this. Any advice?

I agree with so much with what’s been said , I’m late fifties single 13 years and have done nothing to find a new partner and have met nobody. I can’t see me ever doing OLD and my lifestyle outside of work tends to be at peoples houses or certainly not environments where I would be likely to meet a man.
I have now been living on my own 2 years and starting to feel something is missing in my life but I don’t think it’s a man !
Yes it would be lovely to meet someone, to have sex again to be cared about to share the minutiae of your day at the office and I’m not anti just not bothered enough and experience tells me often the price tag for those things is too big.

I didn't have many positive dating experiences, and I had a lot of negative ones. Now I'm disabled and undateable. Its easier to just accept that and get on with my life.

The only thing stopping me is ... I simply can't be arsed.

If Mr Optimum hoves into view, I might bestir myself, but having been in 2 LTR/marriages, & dated plenty around that, I reckon most men just aren't worth the candle. I can no longer be doing with the amount of applause so many of them need, & I'm certainly not taking on the job of educating one sufficiently about women's rights to be able to tolerate him.

I'm not in the slightest bit interested in a relationship. I have a busy fulfilling life and a relationship would be of no benefit to me. Relationships benefit men a lot more than women.

I used to think I might date when dcs had grown (didn't want to be bothered trying to do blended families or for dcs to have a step parent) but now I'm having too much fun on my own, doing what I want when I want. With work, hobbies and friends I've enough to do, and having brought up dcs I relish time on my own.

That sounds so lovely!

experience tells me often the price tag for those things is too big

Exactly this. Sometimes I do miss having someone around to chat to, have a cuddle, eat together etc. But I no longer want to put someone’s else’s needs above my own, which is what inevitably happens at least some of the time, if not the majority.

I don’t want to have to “impress” someone and then have all the angst of wondering if they like me, if they’ll ghost me or cheat on me, or turn out to have a terrible temper. I don’t want that kind of unpredictability any more. I am content, life is calm and quiet, I please myself. So really the only way I “might” get into another relationship is if I met a man and we built a solid friendship first. But all my male friends are either married, gay or really not my type!

I do feel sad about it sometimes but I have a lot of good things in my life and we don’t all get everything we want.