For being totally and absolutley pissed off royally at DH?? <<screams>>

[FumingJustFuming]

Have namechanged...

He collects things, these specific things. I hate them. They are all over his computer room and i mean ALL over, everywhere, not a space on the wall.

Boxes of them in the attic, random ones all over my house. Piles of them boxed. Opened. Doing f**k all but taking up space.

He cant go out shopping without buying one.

I fucking hate them.

Range from about £4 - £100 in value,

but he has hundreds,

And we discussed it the other night, I told him it was getting ridiculous.

We are on a tight budget and we goes out and gets 2, and says they were only £4 each -

YES BUT WHEN YOU BUY THEM CONSTANLY ITS EXPENSIVE!

So we talked and he agreed it was getting out of hand and we didnt have the money for it.

Anyway I needed some money in my paypal to pay for something and he told me to go on his account and transfer some.

So I did and noticed the latest transaction (i swear I wasnt snooping, it didnt even occour to me anything had gone on!)

and ways reciept for payment for $140!!! for one of these things!!!

almost £70!!!! After we had agreed no more!!

I just went down stairs told him I knew, he looked shifty and said it was the last one! (yeah right!!) and just came back up here.

I am in tears.

Im so pissed off. I dont know what to do anymore, its too much

Here's what I would do.

I would say:

"DH, here is a cup of tea. We need to talk. I'm worried you are jeopardising our security with your spending and I am frustrated that you don't see things the same way as me. Please can you try to explain why you buy these figures and we'll try to come to an arrangement that keeps us both relatively happy, before I upend every box of the sodding things and stamp all over them?"

Cluesles

he spends hours setting them all up so they look like they are fighting

when you say his room, do you mean the spare room , or your shared room, you need to get revenge and start collecting cuddly toys fill your entire bed with them

Can you put a picture of the room on your profile so we can see the fighting figures?

Spare room, but we will need it if I ever have another child, thats an issue too,

where would they all go then??

you are so NBU, how about if you agree every time he buys a new one you sell one of the old ones

Isn't this sort of behaviour very... male? Don't a lot of men do this sort of thing? God knows my DP has more records and CDs than can possibly be healthy, and most of them he never listens to.

I can absolutely see your point about spending money that you don't have, but try not to be too harsh on him for the actual collecting/filing/classifying impulse - he probably can't help himself.

you could always say that if he buys one more of the damn things you are going to phone up and see if Guiness are willing to come and supervise a new record attempt

The Largest Number Of Action Figures Up A Man's Arse.

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Hecate

I think the collecting and categorising stuff thing is pretty male - but it's not very attractive, is it?

I don't think I could take a man seriously who posed small action figures like they were fighting.

Can it start affecting your libido? Would that bother him?

Can I suggest something like this

The seller writes that he is selling his collection "because of his girlfriend who wants rid of the dustcatchers"

Tell him you will put the lot on ebay if he does not stop buying.

It is very easy to get caught up in collecting something though. DS wanted to collect a certain series of books once and I got very involved in it, bidding far too much for them on eBay and everything. OTOH, it would make me very angry if I asked DP to stop buying stuff and he agreed to, only to find that he had carried on in secret, so I can see both sides of it.

i won't

i agree with hunker's suggestion, twas very reasonable

i don;t think it is fair to ask him to stop collecting, but to have a limit, and to maybe sell some of them, and collate them all in one area?

it must be sooooo frtustrating

#70 is bad enough, but fibbing about it is really bad

Tell us!!!

poor bloke, he's probably self-soothing with this childish play? sounds like a vicious circle, worry about grown up life like money and need to calm down by feeding a habit that makes life worse. he simply has to bust it. hope you persuade him to sell them. use the money for something useful.

star wars figurines? beanie babies? garden gnomes? plates with pictures of faries and kittens on them? contraceptive memorabilia? vintage mobile phones? lladro china shepherdesses?

oh lord could you imagine 70 lladro china shepherdesses?

My dp sounds rather like this ! Fortunately he confines it all to one (crowded) room and uses his own (spare) money to buy any new figures. Not only does he like to buy the things, he also likes to paint them and looks at a whole range of websites with admiring awe at the 'wonderful' artwork ! Think it's def a man thing but would agree that it can be quite obsessive... Thank God, dp has a lot of other interests in life so he hasn't become a hopeless geek, (although he is intending to go to a wargames convention this weekend!!)