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To effectively sue the nhs :/

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HarriwithanI · 01/12/2022 01:52

This is mega outing with my name and condition, If you know me please respect my privacy.
I work for the nhs but also been neglected massively.

after 10 days in the hospital I work in I lost all feeling from my hips down (couldn’t feel when I needed to wee or walk) was told it was my mental health and functional. Blue lighted to a specialist hospital turns out ecuda equida and basically I’m extremely lucky not to be paralysed.

WWYD? Feel so let down and when at a low emotionally and physically time everything was put down to weight and mental health when it was something that could’ve been/is seriously life changing. I don’t want it happen to anyone else

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Guessitswednesday · 08/01/2023 04:19

My DD had bowl surgery at a week old (shes fine now luckily) but wasnt looked at by nicu and vomiting poo for the entire period and it took 4 days of me begging for someone to take me seriously that she wasnt right. The surgeons said her heart and lungs should of been failing. I spoke to medical negligence and the hospital launched an investigation, basically was told although their actions delayed treatment and diagnosis, because no long term affects were caused, there was nothing to be done. It sounds, skim readi g, as if your situation is similar. Im glad youre okay and on the mend x

Quincythequince · 08/01/2023 04:22

HarriwithanI · 01/12/2022 01:52

This is mega outing with my name and condition, If you know me please respect my privacy.
I work for the nhs but also been neglected massively.

after 10 days in the hospital I work in I lost all feeling from my hips down (couldn’t feel when I needed to wee or walk) was told it was my mental health and functional. Blue lighted to a specialist hospital turns out ecuda equida and basically I’m extremely lucky not to be paralysed.

WWYD? Feel so let down and when at a low emotionally and physically time everything was put down to weight and mental health when it was something that could’ve been/is seriously life changing. I don’t want it happen to anyone else

What are you suing for exactly?
You received treatment didn’t you?

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HarriwithanI · 08/01/2023 05:21

I am so so sorry you’ve had to go through all that. I’m still waiting and know there’s something wrong. Wishing you as much of a normal life as possible now.

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HarriwithanI · 08/01/2023 05:22

Your poor dd, how is she now??

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HarriwithanI · 08/01/2023 05:23

I’m not suing I’m complaining as I’ve written many times on this post now

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HarriwithanI · 08/01/2023 05:26

I received treatment from another trust after 10 days and me reaching out to them - not the medics “looking after Me” who said it was in my head and I needed a poo….

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ByTheGrace · 08/01/2023 06:07

Paq · 07/01/2023 15:32

What a weird question.

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Seriously. Of course there's an emotional benefit. There's also a benefit to all of us in flagging up sub standard and dangerous care. The next patient may not get away with it, in fact the OP is still not out of the woods.

Some people on this thread need to have a word with themselves.

TheDietStartsTomorrowOrMaybeTheDayAfter · 08/01/2023 06:13

Everything always has to be someone else’s fault. It didn’t take that long for you to be diagnosed and now you’re OK. It took longer than that for me to be diagnosed with epilepsy and I didn’t sue. I thought I had brain cancer FFS, yet I didn’t sue. The NHS is in its knees yet you get fools suing all the time and then complaining they can’t see the GP and other people encouraging them to sue.

ByTheGrace · 08/01/2023 06:44

TheDietStartsTomorrowOrMaybeTheDayAfter · 08/01/2023 06:13

Everything always has to be someone else’s fault. It didn’t take that long for you to be diagnosed and now you’re OK. It took longer than that for me to be diagnosed with epilepsy and I didn’t sue. I thought I had brain cancer FFS, yet I didn’t sue. The NHS is in its knees yet you get fools suing all the time and then complaining they can’t see the GP and other people encouraging them to sue.

Except she's not OK and still struggling physically and mentally.. Why not try RFT or does that spoil your fun in kicking someone when you are down? She's also not suing, but wants to complain. Poor and dangerous treatment like this needs flagging., we aren't helping the NHS by hiding it, but we are helping the Tories by being complicit.

Of course epilepsy takes longer than 10 days to diagnose, my DD has it, it's not something that can be diagnosed in a day. It also can take a long time to get the right treatment, as it is trial and error, we are still not there and it's been a long road. The OP's symptoms were a complete red flag, yet were ignored. Also she revieved treatment that was inappropriate, dangerous and humiliating.

HaroldandWilly · 08/01/2023 07:13

I'm so sorry your thread has seemed to attract so many morons with zero idea about how you can be affected by misdiagnosis and Cauda Equina OP.

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HarriwithanI · 08/01/2023 07:57

I just want to say thank you to those who actually understand. I’ve spent so much time replying to the negative ones and missing out the ones that actually understand the seriousness of CES. Or have read the thread and know I want to complain not sue as I don’t want anyone else to go through this.

update from my time in A&e this weekend, still not passed urine/opened bowels, back pain still awful. Saw ortho 5am who said hips and legs are his thing and im best off contacting spinal team monday, it’s rare to get CES twice so take painkillers and rest it’s probably my wound infection…

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BornBlonde · 08/01/2023 08:09

Just wanted to say your experience has been horrendous Flowers I hope you have good health going forward

MrsMorton · 08/01/2023 08:11

TheDietStartsTomorrowOrMaybeTheDayAfter · 08/01/2023 06:13

Everything always has to be someone else’s fault. It didn’t take that long for you to be diagnosed and now you’re OK. It took longer than that for me to be diagnosed with epilepsy and I didn’t sue. I thought I had brain cancer FFS, yet I didn’t sue. The NHS is in its knees yet you get fools suing all the time and then complaining they can’t see the GP and other people encouraging them to sue.

CES IS A SURGICAL EMERGENCY. It is not epilepsy, and I'm very sorry you have been through that but every medic in the world could have diagnosed CES through a frosted window whilst listening to Pearl Jam on noise cancelling head phones whilst watching OP describe their symptoms through the medium of mime. OP's treatment was unacceptable. Full. Stop. Whether it is negligence is another matter but the next patient might be paralysed. And you seem absolutely fine with that. Bonkers.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 08/01/2023 08:17

What did they say about not passing urine OP?

wtfisgoingonhere21 · 08/01/2023 09:04

@HarriwithanI

I'm bloody shocked reading your thread that people are being so nasty and saying don't sue.

Ffs in your position I would definitely be seeking legal advice and demanding my notes if they aren't forthcoming.

Yes the nhs is in a shit state. And yes it's under funded and under staffed but if people who end up badly treated and suffering don't come forward it certainly won't change.

It's not like there's a choice of where we go In an emergency is there.

Op I'm so sorry your in this position and people bypassing the way you were spoken to and a catheter being but in the the wrong place?? Ffs that's appalling

I really do hope you get seen today and helped.

It's shocking what some people are having to go through right now.

Ignore the nasty twats here op

Whatever happened to be kind and actually if you can't be kind just scroll past and keep your comments to yourselves.

Let's hope none of you end up In a similar situation cause I'm damn sure you wouldn't sit back and accept it

Lmgify · 08/01/2023 09:14

I can’t believe they’re ignoring you a second time. I’m sure you told them about last time? Sorry I’m not a medical person so don’t know how hospitals work, but is PALS contactable over the weekend? Maybe threatening to complain/ sue will get you a scan at least so if it is CES then they can operate straight away on Monday?

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HarriwithanI · 08/01/2023 09:27

@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor “give it time”

yes I know soon as I ring tomorrow they will take it seriously, it’s so fustrating living rural and them hours away but they’ve been amazing since I’ve had the op, I’ve had sepsis, staph infection, chest infection. They’ve organised all the tests for me over the phone as urgent and reviewed them/got me treatment asap. I’m not leaving my bed today to aggravate whatever’s going on.

Honestly cried at some responses I should never have done this thread but the ones showing support it means so much more then you’ll ever know x

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HarriwithanI · 08/01/2023 09:28

@Lmgify yes If it is they will. They blue lighted me up and took me straight to theatre last time

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JustAnotherManicNameChange · 08/01/2023 10:11

TheDietStartsTomorrowOrMaybeTheDayAfter · 08/01/2023 06:13

Everything always has to be someone else’s fault. It didn’t take that long for you to be diagnosed and now you’re OK. It took longer than that for me to be diagnosed with epilepsy and I didn’t sue. I thought I had brain cancer FFS, yet I didn’t sue. The NHS is in its knees yet you get fools suing all the time and then complaining they can’t see the GP and other people encouraging them to sue.

But this is someone else's fault! The fault of all medical staff that were rude to OP, told her it's her weight and MH issues, ignored symptoms and failed to accurately diagnose and treat in a timely matter.

Unless you think it's somehow OP's fault for being stuck on a ward for 10 days with a condition that requires urgent surgery?

JustAnotherManicNameChange · 08/01/2023 10:15

HarriwithanI · 07/01/2023 23:36

It’s Deja vu I can’t do this. Offered paracetamol. I’ve written another post of everything I’m on

Is this the same hospital/team as the first time?

BackAgainstWall · 08/01/2023 10:16

But they reached the correct diagnosis.

How exactly is this going to help the NHS that’s on its knees already?

What would you and lots of people do WITHOUT the NHS, because you’re certainly not helping the situation.

GabriellaMontez · 08/01/2023 10:21

BackAgainstWall · 08/01/2023 10:16

But they reached the correct diagnosis.

How exactly is this going to help the NHS that’s on its knees already?

What would you and lots of people do WITHOUT the NHS, because you’re certainly not helping the situation.

And if they'd reached the correct diagnosis 9 days earlier. They'd have minimised her suffering, reduced the risk of long term damage and further cost to the NHS. Not forgetting they'd have freed up a bed sooner.

JustAnotherManicNameChange · 08/01/2023 10:38

BackAgainstWall · 08/01/2023 10:16

But they reached the correct diagnosis.

How exactly is this going to help the NHS that’s on its knees already?

What would you and lots of people do WITHOUT the NHS, because you’re certainly not helping the situation.

"They" didn't, another trust and team did.

What they did do:

Wasted a bed and resources for 10 days.
Treated OP appallingly ,blamed her, her weight,her mental health. I don't think you can even comprehend the trauma of being in pain, paralysed and being told by professionals it's all in your head for days on end. The fear and worry.
Failed to diagnose classic signs of a medical surgical emergency.

Those actions would cost a lot more long term if OP or another patient didn't recover. A lawsuit, loss of jobs, loss of a member of staff (OP might still end up being unable to return ), long term care and treatment to fix an avoidable fuck up, patients ending up paralysed or worse when they didn't have to be.

HaroldandWilly · 08/01/2023 10:40

BackAgainstWall · 08/01/2023 10:16

But they reached the correct diagnosis.

How exactly is this going to help the NHS that’s on its knees already?

What would you and lots of people do WITHOUT the NHS, because you’re certainly not helping the situation.

I work for the NHS. As do several other posters who are encouraging the OP to make a compliant. The OP is lucky she isn't paralysed because of the delay in diagnosis. The NHS cannot ever improve, if people do not complain about things that should not have happened. Do you understand that?

Reporting things that go wrong, helps the next set if patients who could otherwise be misdiagnosed. It's not rocket science.

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HarriwithanI · 08/01/2023 11:16

I work for the nhs too and the hospital I’ve attended which failed to recognise ecs and have now sent me home a second time with the same symptoms.
yet some still want to argue it? I don’t understand - I’ve been clear I want to complain not sue and it was written in anger so no one else has to go through this god forbid one of those complaining do!l

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