How to respond: you’ll build a rod for your own back

[BigMama32]

My LB isn’t the best sleeper, he’s only 5 months (still teeny tiny in my eyes) and my husband and I pick him up or provide physical comfort every time he cries during sleep. We see comfort as a need too - I understand if that’s not everyone’s parenting choice and every family’s and babies needs are different.

Im struggling with how to respond when I get repeated “oh you’re building a rod for your own back there” comments from family/ in laws as obviously I want to be polite but also want to reply in a manner that firmly stops these comments for good.

Even although I absolutely don't agree with not teaching a baby to self soothe (sleep deprivation is a form of torture...), I defend your right to raise your child as you see fit. Tell them, your baby, your choice.

Why tell them what you do with your baby in the night? Just say he happily sleeps through.

I fed my DC every time they cried at that age. No one else's business but mine.

When you say pick him up what do you mean....i'e.why not co sleep

It’s just not for us. Sorry if the OP is unclear, I said pick him up or provide Physical comfort which I realise is a bit vague, he’s in a next to me so I can reach my arm round him to give him a cuddle or pick him up/feed him etc

Sorry I mean a co sleeping cot which I regard as co sleeping.
I co slept via a conslee p cot

“Well, if we do we do. It’s not something you need to worry about.”

Honestly shrug and ignore is the best response. If you perfect it now it will serve you well. I have three kids plus pets. If unwanted advice was doughnuts I'd be running a branch of Gregg's. After a while it just becomes soothing background noise.