Moving 30 mins away from kids school. AIBU?

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we have been offered a lovely property so we are feeling very lucky! but it is further out. In a small little village lots of trees and nice places to walk. Few little shops and there is a Morrison’s too.

The house is perfect and we have the option to buy it within 3 years of living there. Which is what we wanted.

We both drive so that’s not an issue, but we are very use to jumping in the car 5 minutes up the road to the school and popping to the shops going out for lunch etc..

So every time we go out now it will be a 30 min drive into town. 40 miles a day!

The kids love there school and have said they don’t want to move. So I am stuck with what to do!

AIBU to even consider it?

How old are the children

DD is 4 and DS is 6 tomorrow.

What are the school options nearer to the house?

At that age I’d move schools.

I'd would move, take the house security and move them schools after a few months my daughter moved at 6 and doesn't even remember as I didn't make a thing of it. At that age they are too young to have a say in such a major decision

What do you mean you have been offered a house, sorry? Is it this house or nothing? 3 minutes is a lot. I wouldn't lie that at All but I am not alwqys drawn to sensible/mature/financially sound decisions!

Absolutely move schools and take the house

At 4 and 6 the children surely don't get to dictate where you live!
They'll settle into a new school very quickly - you need to think about how you introduce the idea, and fact, that you are moving. That it'll be an adventure, they'll make new friends (and keep the old), bigger garden/bedrooms etc.
you and your DH decide whether or not to move. Not a 4 year old and a 6 year old.

Take the house and move them providing there’s a good school nearby with spaces.

At those ages I would move but look to move school closer too. They are still young enough to easily make friends and otherwise uour setting up for another 6 years of that run and future issues possibly when it comes to secondary school.

Sorry posted too soon. If there is a supermarket and it’s a small village you can get coffee and stuff to do (I live in a very small village )

Just take the house and move schools. They will soon forget the old school they are very young.

If they were at secondary I say stick with it, but at their ages I would move school. They say they don't want to move, but one has only just started and the other just doesn't know any different so wants to stick with what they know. Moving will help build new local friendships, and get you all involved in the local community.

It would be crazy to move house but not move schools at their age.
Moving schools would also help you fit into your new community.

I'd personally hate that, both as a parent and a child/teen. I loved the independence of walking to school with my friends. If it's the right house/location then I'd move schools so you can walk or cycle.

Thanks I am just having a look at the schools now. DS has done amazing at school so was very hesitant to move him.

Were currently in a 2 bed private rented house costing us a fortune and it’s too small we will save £475 in rent! It’s housing association.

Move. Kids 4 & 6 don’t get a say. How can a 4 year old even remotely understand to have an opinion?

Gosh, yes move. The kids will be fine in a different school, you get cheaper rent and a guaranteed secure home with the option to buy it. You're very lucky to be in that position.

You absolutely move their school at that age. You're the parent, you need to make choices that's best for your family as a whole. Kids won't want to move school that's normal

30 minute walk I'd say fine, 30 minute drive, no way!

School is only for a few years but this house could be for the rest of your life.

Children that age will say ‘no’ to most things.

I’d definitely take the house, and I’d probably move them to a local school at start of next academic year, unless it was awful. If it was awful then I’d suck up the daily 2 hr commute to school for the sake of the house and find a job near (or at?) their school.

Just move them, that distance will soon not prove worth it. Think about after school activities, concerts, parents evenings, parties, playdates. They are young enough to move and adapt to a new school and friends.

Of course they say no, its really scary at that age. But it can also be exciting. Children move schools all the time and mostly settle quickly. My elder DD went to five Primary schools... dont recommend that, but they truly do settle. Have you seen the house/potential school?

I'd take the house and move school. DD has been in her new school for a year and half and hardly remembers her old one now (she's 7). It will be great for them to know the local kids and have friends close by.

It will ime become a hideous journey. And a complete pita. For example dc sick and you have to pick up. Forgotten PE kit. School meeting...
Becomes a total resentment.. Tried it for 6 months. Def glad I moved the 3 dc. They were 6, 8 and 9.