Baby names and my mum

[yvonneb13]

Hi everyone I'm 28 weeks pregnant and me and my partner are struggling because my mum is taking so much to with naming our baby as she hates every name we say and saying aw no can't call him that ect it's just making it really stressful and it shouldn't be stressful I obviously want my mum to like her first grandchild's name but because I don't like a name she says she says "we are too fussy" it's taking the fun out of it and I have no idea what to do. Just looking for a rant really tbh

Don’t tell her. My husband and l are strictly keeping names between ourselves. Until they are born and names are actually given. Both of our mothers are quite opinionated and won’t hold back. Plus have quite different tastes to us

Stop involving her in the discussion - she doesn’t get a say in your child’s name!

Stop telling her!! My dm admitted quite a while after ds was born that she did not like the name when we told her but now she loves it and cannot imagine him with a different one.

Seems to be the issue I'm having with my mum atm she's just so opinionated on every name I've said and it's just making it to hard.

Is the name Storm Water Cloud? If so, she might have a point lol.

Otherwise just don't tell her anymore. She'll get used to it.

Time to start establishing your boundaries or you could find yourself totally overwhelmed when the baby is born. What happens if she takes the baby out of your arms? Tells you you’re feeding your baby wrong? Etc.

’Sorry mum but I didn’t find talking about baby names together helpful so I’m just going to decide with my partner’.

I don’t see why she has to like the name at all. You and your partner do and that’s it! There is no name that everyone likes.

You would think at this point 😂

Just announce the name when they are born. People don't tend to be as rude when the name is attached to an actual adorable baby.

Usually, anyway...

It's nothing to do with her.

Why are you telling her this stuff? Why do you think she gets to have a say on what you name your baby.

She sounds controlling, vetoing every name you pick and saying you're fussy when you don't want one of hers. Tell her to back the fuck off, she's named her kids, it's your turn to name yours

Stop telling her.

I'm just about to become a grandmother and haven't even asked about names. It's their business and I will smile and say I love it even if I don't.

Names become the baby anyway.

Hate to say but sounds like things will only get worse when the baby arrives.

You need to be be firm now that this is yours and husband baby not hers.

I'm a grandmother and I know how hard it is to keep your mouth shut when your daughter is coming up with all sorts of suggestions. I can't imagine GC1 being any other name now but it certainly wouldn't have been my first choice. Given that your mum is so vocal about not liking certain names I'd limit the conversation or throw her a few red herrings (for a laugh)
Currently DD is expecting GC2 and everytime the name Willow comes up I go quiet 😁

Your mum doesn’t get a say, stop telling her. We didn’t tell anyone our names. Before I’d even considered having a child I mentioned a name I liked to a family member and they then went on to use it so I made sure I kept quiet about the names I liked after that!

YABU for telling her your ideas. Don't ask don't tell is an unwritten rule with baby names for a very good reason.

Stop getting her involved. She doesn't have a say in it.

Why are you even telling her?

Do you want her opinion?

If not stop involving her!

I want her to like it because she's my mum
And first grandchild ect but i think everyone it right and I just have to be firm because by the looks of it we are never going to agree

You'd hope wouldn't you!

My generally lovely mum hmmd & said no, she didn't really like the name.

I said to her that we were telling her the name, not asking her opinion!

I want her to like it because she's my mum

But so what if she doesn't like a name that you & your partner choose?

Is her opinion more important than your partner's /yours about your own child?

What sort of things does she like?

Don’t discuss names with her. Pick a name you and your partner like and then tell her when she meets the baby.

She will love baby and the name. And even if she didn’t, she wouldn’t tell you because it would be rude once named baby is in her arms.

You are creating this issue for yourself.

Keep repeating ‘oh mum you had your turn already, WE are not deciding until the baby is here’

Yes you want her to like the name but honestly she could hate the name because it was associated to the school bully but when it becomes associated with her baby grandchild, the old association with the name fizzles out.

You and your partner pick some names, decide in your own good time and refuse to listen to anyone else. This is your baby, stand up for yourself now before you come back next year with my mum wants to do whatever ‘firsts’ with the baby.

Another line I’ve seen on here ‘if you’re weren’t involved in the conception, you’re not involved with choosing a name’. 😁

As others have said, stop talking to her about names. If she suggests a name just make a non committal comment or go hmmm

She is just excited but it's not up to her, your child will grow into their name anyway. There are very few unpleasant names out there.