Baby names and my mum

[yvonneb13]

Hi everyone I'm 28 weeks pregnant and me and my partner are struggling because my mum is taking so much to with naming our baby as she hates every name we say and saying aw no can't call him that ect it's just making it really stressful and it shouldn't be stressful I obviously want my mum to like her first grandchild's name but because I don't like a name she says she says "we are too fussy" it's taking the fun out of it and I have no idea what to do. Just looking for a rant really tbh

My mum pulled a face and made a cats bum mouth when we told her our DD name.
Tough shit.
I guess she likes it now, 9 years later but I don't know, I've not asked.
Ignore it and choose the name you want

I can't imagine GC1 being any other name now but it certainly wouldn't have been my first choice.

Which is fine because you named your kids what you wanted to & your GC's parents have done the same.

Don't tell her.

if she wants to get involved tell her she can give you a list of names to look at but you dont have to pick one of them

I would just tell your mum that you are going to call the baby Chlamydia or something equally aweful (bonus points if you can make up a random spelling for the name) so that it will come as a blessed relief when you "change your mind" after the baby is born when you decide to call them something more normal.

This is like one of the first tests of parenthood

Why is it any of her concern? If my kids called theirs Yoda, I’d smile and say lovely (whilst screaming inside 🤣)

Don't tell her! I did with my first and she upset me regularly with her opinion on my baby names. In my second pregnancy every request was met with "we are keeping names to ourselves until baby is born as we are finding people are upsetting us with their opinions on our choices"

Just stop involving your mum in a decision which is between you and your DH. Baby is born, give it your chosen name, tell you mum what it is.

I’m 17 weeks and my dad wasn’t sure on the name we want for our baby boy. First of all regret telling anyone! Would definitely keep quiet if we decide to have a second child but secondly, it’s not your mums baby it’s YOURS! We’re not changing our sons name for anyone. Your mum had her kids and had her time to call her babies what she wanted so now it’s your turn. Just keep her out of it.

Same as others. Just don't talk about it, next time she raises it say you and partner will choose, and she'll find out when baby is here and announced.
It's not her choice, and she's free to hate or love it - that is not your fault or your responsibility. She should support you in your choices and know better than to bully or pressure her own daughter over it. She had her turn to name babies.

Don’t ask her. Decide yourselves. Like others have said any negative association will go when her GC is here.
I told my parents /DH parents when the baby had been born and named. I would guess she wasn’t a fan of one of my DCs names but she seems to love him just the same.

I would guess my DM

She will like it when it's your baby's name - at the moment, she's just picking over theoreticals so it's easy to be negative. We chose names that my mum would never have picked in a million years, but she loves them because they are her grandkids' names! Save her from herself, pick a name and present her with it when it's attached to a cute baby.

Well you’ve created this problem by discussing it with her. Just stop doing it.

She named her children and you'll name yours.

Stop chasing her approval and just pick a name that you and your partner both love.

Tell her you are not discussing names for the next couple of months.

The only people involved in naming a child should be it’s parents.

your mum will love this child regardless of its name.

take your power back and set boundaries now.

How rude of her! She has absolutely no business at all in your baby's name. She shouldn't even expect to be consulted. She will like whatever you choose anyway once the baby comes. Just tell her when you present her with the baby! :) Hope it goes well, good luck in your pregnancy.

Stop discussing it with her?

You're a big girl now.

When ds was born and we named him my mother said "that's horrific" ffw 11 years she told me " I always liked the name Conrad it's such a good strong name"

Your mum will be the same she will grow to love her grqndchild and the name will grow to be one she loves.

My mum was the EXACT same. She was like 'oh no way' to every name even tame ones. It used to influence and upset me so I know how hard it is just to ignore. I think she'd of only been OK with a name if I'd of called them John or something (no offence to anyone who has a dc called John). As an outside I would of said you just need to realise her taste is so old school and simple compared to yours there was no point getting worked up as we were coming from two different places. It's still so disheartening and a bit infuriating when you excitedly share a name you love and they poo all over it. I must admit I did name both my dc a name she didn't 'hate' it shouldn't of influenced me but it did. Luckily I love the names. And some of the names she viscerally hated I'm glad I didn't go with. So maybe she did me a favour. But I will say if there is a name you can't stop going back to it will grow on her once the child is here.

Why do you want her to like it? It doesn't matter if she does or not, its your child. My guess is she loves the power youve given her by involving her and the attention and she'll just keep ve toeing names because she can. No one in my family tells anyone the name until after the baby is born and there's no judgements..

My MiL didn’t like the girl’s name we chose. She said it sounded hard. Her preference was for a name that sounded ridiculous with our surname. We stuck with our choice.

I had no input into the grandchildren names and nor did I expect to. Their children, their choice.

Dont tell her until youve had the baby, named it and thats that. Nobody except dp and I liked dd2s name which we chose when she was born. But we stuck to our guns and they all just associate it with her now.

Stop telling her things! Put her on a need to know basis and that's it.

I know my parents and in-laws are going to HATE our baby name - so they won't be telling them what it is until DD is here.

In-laws like very short, one syllable names, DM loathes anything "showy" or even remotely unusual. We're planning on calling DD Serafina 😂. It's going to go down like a lead balloon, but DH and I think it's beautiful.