Long term plan is to leave. I need to get back into work when youngest in full time education and then leave but right now I really need some advice and support please.
DH is very unreasonable, manipulative and controlling. I had my youngest birthday party over the weekend and invited his little nursery friends which DH didn’t like. I ignored his wishes as my kids deserve happy memories. It was fantastic, I made so many connections as I don’t see nursery parents at drop off or pick up and everyone had an amazing time, I felt so good, haven’t felt this happy in ages. He disappeared for the whole day and when he came back at the end of the day he had a miserable look on his face and was moody and rude to people.
when everyone left and my sister remained with my friend and we sat catching up and chatting he kept coming into the room giving me the usual “eyes” and angry face I ignored him and didn’t look his way. He then texted me saying “I thought this was a kids party? Why are they still here? My dad has called wanted to speak to “my kids name” I don’t want to talk to him with people still here. Tell them to leave.”
He was then rude to my sister when she tried to make small talk with him.
he’s been banging the doors and furniture today and broken lots of things. He’s told me to get the “fuck out of my house” and told me I’m “poor scum” as I don’t work. I’m actually a supply teacher so I do earn money and don’t ask him for anything. I’m fed up. My mum heard him today as he was swearing at me whilst I was on phone to her. He’s very professional and earns a huge amount, so many people think he’s amazing. They don’t know what a crazy psycho he is. Im so lonely and fed up. I was crying looking at photos of myself from years ago - I was beautiful before I married him and he’s work me down over these years and broken me,