To Be Annoyed at Restaurant Staff

[Aldith]

DH and I were on holiday last week in a hotel of the floating variety owned by a large and well known company. On our last night we went to one of the restaurants onboard and DH ordered what he wanted and I ordered Spaghetti Carbonara tossed in a Parmesan Wheel. The dish came had a £3 supplement payment. They asked my DH if it was alright that my dish had a £3 supplement and then told him how my food would come. Both times with their back to me. Am I right to be annoyed as I ordered the food not DH.

Really? This is all you have to worry about??
People can't afford to eat and your on your phone/laptop/whatever, browsing the internet, yet whinging and whinging.
Be ashamed of yourself.

Was it definitely sexism? You weren't acting strange or drunk? Did they have any reason to think you wouldn't understand the question?

Apart from coming on here to voice satisfaction, how did DH and yourself actually deal with this at the time it occurred?

They charged you extra to drag your dinner through that cheese wheel? Does Gordon Ramsey know about this?

Definitely not drunk and nor was it a restaurant you had to prebook on your card. You didn’t have to book the buffet, the formal dining room or the Italian restaurants.

Maybe a little word with TUI is in order not to name and shame the staff member but to let them know that I am annoyed that how my dish was prepared was explained to my husband not me and that in future maybe dish preparation should be discussed with the person ordering it.

Why didn’t you say anything there and then?

I would have just said that’s my order, not his.

If you had read some of my other threads you would know it’s been an awful year. DH resigned from the company he was working for at the start of the year when it became clear that due to injury he wouldn’t be able to do the job again. After he resigned the company slipped up paid him his salary even though they hadn’t paid him for months.

He contacted the company to say he’d been paid when he shouldn’t have been and they said that they owed him holiday pay after he resigned so just to keep the salary and call it your holiday pay. Maybe we should have been sensible and saved all of it but surely that is our choice.

Definitely weird meal. Not just the serving it in a wheel of cheese, how decadent, but the fact they're using parmesan in the first place. With carbonara that should be pecorino. Very different taste and not substitutable.

Manner of serving it - yes, absolutely, should be addressed with the person ordering it AND at the time of ordering it so there's time to make a different selection if so inclined.

Why didn’t you say anything there and then?

That’s what I asked. Why not just address it at the time with the relevant staff member? Surely that would be so much easier than coming onto a forum, posting about it, and then considering sending another communication to TUI. It could have all been done and dusted immediately in the restaurant when the order was taken🤷‍♀️.

I just can’t understand it, surely your DH didn’t answer for you but redirected to yourself?

Come on - life is short and this really doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. You could clearly hear what was being said about your food preparation. Just let it go. You don’t have to make complaints about every tiny annoyance in life.