Is this unforgivable

[GreenCurt]

Name changed but regular poster

Recently had a gender reveal, organised by my SIL, at their house.

Only my in-laws were there, (I had a separate reveal with my family)

Not such a fan of gender reveals etc and never had them for my previous DCs but we like a family get together and SIL said she would love to host.

Anyway, MIL arrived, stayed for around 15 mins after we all said hi etc, then got into a little heated discussion with her own daughter about something unrelated (not with my SIL who was hosting but another SIL), she then left, before we did the reveal, literally just stormed out and drove home!

She didn't even do a follow up call to say congratulations on the sex of the baby or acknowledge anything. My DH was quite upset that his mum did that, I've not gotten over it, but he has but I've and not spoken to her since. AIBU?

Just need some thoughts about it really

Did you call her to see if she was ok?

@Testina Yep, not everyone has a way with words

I don't understand people who get into such a huff with their own family at family gatherings that they would leave in the middle. I'd think less of her for it, tbh, but I wouldn't expect her to contact me simply to congratulate me on learning whether I'm having a boy or a girl, either.

Gender reveals aren't for me, but if someone else enjoys them, so what? I don't like long funerals or large weddings, either, but neither do I expect anyone to care how I feel about them.

@NamelessTemptress01 Nope

@fruktsoda Exactly, thank you!

I would never dream of going to someone's party/reveal/gathering and then walk out in a mood/huff.

Who earth has two gender reveals for the same baby. Surely the second one was dull?

It is definitely your child’s sex that you are revealing. How could you reveal the gender of an unborn baby? Gender is a social construct.

@cookiesbeforepookies Yeah it's was pretty naff tbh

@TumbleFryer You do know people call them gender reveals though? And not sex reveals, I'm not disagreeing with you but that's what they're called

Still, not on for MIL behaving like that. Tell DH you’re expecting an apology.

Why were your in-laws not invited to the grand reveal you put on for your family

@PinkSyCo That's twice (that I've counted) you've come back to this thread, got nothing else to do?

Well no I was about as busy as you were. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Not busy now either as it goes. Tell you what, I could organise another gender reveal party for you if you like. 😁

@PinkSyCo 🤣 Enjoy your day!

MIL leaving the party was not about you. She had an argument with someone else, which wasn't anything to do with you, and felt it best to remove herself from the scene - which is a much more mature decision than staying and carrying on the argument. Yes, she probably left huffily, but that wasn't anything to do with you.

She didn't miss anything important (as you yourself say it was an excuse for a get-together because gender reveals are inherently a bit silly) and expecting a message of congratulations is a bit bonkers.

What was the argument about and is she OK?