to consider letting my 8 year odl leave school early today - for no good reason?

[MamaG]

We had dental appt at 3. Dentist is in the next county (yes, COUNTY) along a horrible A road. When weather bad, lorries regularly tip over and the raod is often closed due to weather.

It is extremely windy/haily today and so I've rearranged appt for next week. However - school think she's leaving at 2 to go to dentist, now I've cancelled I'm toying with still collecting her at 2 and bringing her home to bake chocolate muffins with me an DS (age 3) and snuggle up in front of the fire.

Its a bad idea isn't it

so 2 weeks out of school for a holiday is ok, but half a day off to spend quality time with a parent isn;t? okaaaaay

quality my arse.

ok . fine. we'll agree to disagree then

Occasionally when I was young we would be walking up the road to school and my mum would on impulse herd us onto the bus into town and we would go to the train station and catch a train to the beach. It is probably not the right thing to do but it was bliss riding on donkeys and paddling in the sea in our school uniforms.

well dd1 has had shingles and was probably well enough to go back on Tuesday and I have kept her off all week with me

has been luvverly

I am obviously a bad mummy as I get excited by the prospect of after school club once a week so that I get some me time.

still think it's wrong

don't think one hour would have mattered in the grand scheme of things. though she's going to have to do the same next week isn't she?

I personally wouldn't take 2 weeks out for a holiday either (whole different thread) but can understand those who do, but the OP asked if she was unreasonable so as usual on MN a plethora of opinion has been given !

Also, if you take 2 weeks out for a holiday, the school gives written permission and it's all above board - it was the lying thing that I felt was wrong to be honest.

I occasionally do this. I will do it tomorrow if it snows as it is so rare in London. I wouldn't lie tho', just not give any explanation. Have never been asked afterwards about it.

In general, I feel it is good to introduce children to the concept of mild "skiving". Too little of it goes on these days in our increasingly work orientated world.

skiving - is this just a Scottish word?
AKA bunking off, avoiding work, either by absence or cunning (eg: mning whilst at work!

does no-one here ever have a duvet day?

that's it, lulu, a duvet day!

Wish MY mum would come & collect me from school an hour early to bake cakes (I'm a teacher...)

Only trouble is - if you're telling her a spot of mild skiving is OK this week, what do you say next week when she & her mates decide to go into town & shoplift lipsticks from Boots rather than bothering with French period 6?

Yes, I know she's only 8 - I just think it's setting a dodgy precedent for the future - which personally I'd avoid in the interests of an easy life & maintaining the moral high ground, etc etc...

or finished work earlier than they should, taken a longer lunch hour? took a day off sick when they could have struggled in

this is a one off for an 8 year old girl !!

You should've done it.

She is 8, you didn't have to let her know you were fibbing. One of my DP's happiest days he remembers from being a child was driving to school with his mum and her suddenly going in the wrong direction and taking him to toysrus, then out to lunch and playing all afternoon with him.

I don't think it taught him that it was ok to skive off school suddenly.

some nhs trusts (not mine) offer "duvet day" eg you can give min notice of wanting to take a day off and provided work commitments are covered you have it off

i think you get 1-2 duvet days

MaryAnnSingleton: "it does show that school doesn't matter if you can just leave whenever you feel like it"

Or that the school isn't very good, if people feel like leaving ... I've always found the idea of Free Schools attractive. Scary, but attractive.

Sarahjct: "Wow, I see things have changed big time from when I was a child (not that long ago!). When did the tiniest little thing become such a crime? When did parents give over total control of their children to other people?"

What she said. It's amazing the infantilisng effect that schools have on otherwise sensible and mature adults. Being scared of head teachers, for example - for crying out loud, they are only junior or maybe middle managers.

All this crap about "Ooh, can't take the kids away for a day or the school will fine me." Dammit, parents should be able to fine schools and teachers every time they waste a day of the children's time.

SATS week? That'll be a hundred quid, thanks.

Study leave? That's be four hundred.

Grrrrrrrr.

My mum kept me off school probably around the same age once or twice to go to an afternoon matane at the theatre.
I never felt it was of to bunk off school as a teen either.
My mum did a good enough job on me for me to know right from wrong.
I remember those trips to the theatre, it wasn't something she made a habit of but it was memorable.

"Or that the school isn't very good, if people feel like leaving"

No logic. Everyone feels like leaving something they are obliged to do at least a few times in their life. Unless you are now talking about leaving forever.

Oh dear, it's got to the 'quoting back things people have said further down the thread' time

It's definitely going to kick off