To NOT want to get a cleaner

[Pinkysunset]

Hi.
I’ve recently gone back to full time work and. Have insisted my husband taken in half the housework as we both work the same amount of hours. previously I did the bulk of it as I was home a lot more. I thought this fair.
my husband has booked a cleaner to come this Friday. I do not want a cleaner. he knows I am against this. He booked it anyway.
reasons why I’m against is getting a cleaner….
i don’t want a stranger in my house while I’m not there
i don’t like the idea of other people changing my bed or cleaning my loo or washing my pants.
I earn less per hour than he’s going to be paying the cleaner.
with the currently economic climate I think £17.50 an hour ( husband reckons 8 hours a week!) could be better spent else where ( pay off mortgage more quickly/ put in saving for emergency/ holiday fund)
I think if we just each did our fair share the house would be fine.
yes yabu: let him outsource his half of the cleaning even if it makes you uncomfortable and uses up a big chunk of family money
no, yanbu: it’s not right to get a cleaner if one person isn’t on board with it.
p.s. I know a lot of people love having a cleaner- I just know it’s not for me.

I’m with you OP, I wouldn’t want a cleaner either. I do feel unusual as most people I know have cleaners, even some people who don’t work! It’s just never appealed to me.

However I do think it’s fair enough for your DH to get a cleaner to cover his share of the chores, as long as he is paying for it and does all of the logistics - booking the cleaner, paying them on time, making sure that he is around to let them in. None of that should fall to you.

8 hours a week jesus christ. I'm a cleaner and I do 2/3hours a week, max £14 an hour and supply products. I do think cleaners really help a working family especially if done om a friday ready for the weekend but I think your husband is out of touch

Sounds like he thinks getting a cleaner will mean his life carries on as before, but I can bet you did a lot more than 2 hours a week of household tasks.

Op corrected it too 8 hours a month!