To not want to be a fifth wheel?

[Celia24]

And would you say something?

I'm friends with two women, let's say Sarah and Bex, we meet up every so often. I'm the single one at the moment.

A while ago, after years of women only meet ups, they asked if their boyfriends could join a night out. It was ok as thankfully we bumped into some of my other friends during the night but I felt awkward.

This weekend my friend, lets call her Sarah, has invited me and Bex over to her house. She now says her boyfriend will be there and has invited Bex to bring her boyfriend as well. I instantly don't want to go and actually turned down other plans for this.

Would you be honest in my shoes?

KettrickenSmiled

No need to be so disingenuous, not everybody is decent. Ask to meet up withiut partners and people will knowingly snirk and accuse you of being jealous of their 'relationship'. They are a couple after all, and must do everything together.

I told them why I wasn't coming this time and asked to see them another time soon.

Sarah said it wasn't a couples oriented event, just a chance for friends to get together and asked me if I'd reconsider. Bex didn't even acknowledge the couples aspect and just said 'oh please come'. They don't seem to have acknowledged why I feel this way or they think it's silly.

To me, 2 couples and me isn't something I feel up to doing. I'm going out with my other friends instead.

I can’t imagine deliberately social segregating Myself in this way

i think it’s a shame op

@Cluelessdiyer I don't know many single people that make a habit of spending time just with other couples. The last time I spent time with this particular set of couples I felt lonely.

Ive been through a difficult month and I didn't want to spend my Saturday feeling that way. Christmas can be hard when you're single, it seems to be the best reminder of the downsides.

It probably is a shame. I wish I could be like PPs who are happy to socialise like this. I used to be the easy breezy couple at events, sadly my ex cheated and that was that. It really isn't easy sometimes.