Would you allow this?

[LollyPops123]

Daughter 23, moving into new house with boyfriend. They want to take the family cat who is 14 and getting on a bit. Aibu to ask if you would be ok with this?

No way.

She can get her own cat.

This would be extremely tough on the cat - to the point of being actually cruel.

If they want an older cat there are lots in rescue crying out for homes - most people want kittens or young cats.

Your family cat is likely to be deeply pissed off at such a move; unless it's necessary to rehome him/her for other reasons, I wouldn't entertain this.

You haven't given enough information to get a informed answer. I suspect because you just want to show her that everyone on MN says no.

Is it actually the family cat or was it hers? Who currently does most of the care for it?
Seems unfair to take an elderly cat from its home to a new place just so they don't have to train a new one

No way. Cats hate change.

Moving the cat would be entirely for your daughter's benefit.

If you asked the cat, she'd say no!!

There are so many cats waiting for a good home at shelters and rescues- your daughter and her boyfriend can give a good home to one of them.

No it would cause the cat distress

I got the family cats when I moved into a place big enough/suitable to have cats, but my parents wanted to get a dog, so it was all part of a long standing arrangement, and they always said they were "my cats". One cat was old but she lived another two years to 19, so a pretty good innings. Elderly cats can be a lot of work though and can rack up the vets' bills. Your daughter needs to be prepared for that. Generally I'd probably agree with the comments that the cat will likely be happier to stay where she is.

Fuck no. Poor cat.

No way, that cat would be so stressed out and try to run away home. We've had many cats. Elderly cats do not do well with change. Please leave it where it's familiar.

If it was the family cat which loves everyone I would say no she couldn't take it.

If it was a cat who only responded to one person, ie your dd, then I would let her take it. If my dd was to move out and wanted to take our cat I would let her take it because the cat is very bonded to her and really just tolerates the rest of us.