Would you allow this?

[LollyPops123]

Daughter 23, moving into new house with boyfriend. They want to take the family cat who is 14 and getting on a bit. Aibu to ask if you would be ok with this?

I'm not sure what I'd be voting for if I was to select either option. Can you give us a guide on what we'd be voting for if we say YABU - Is she allowed to take the cat or not?

Also just to clarify, you did mean cat and not family car?? Just checking there wasn't a typo there.

At that age of cat I'd say no. Moving it will stress it out enormously.

One of our our cats is particularly attached to my daughter who's 20. Although we all love her they have a bond. She's always said that if she moves out she'd like to take her and she can, on the proviso that she takes financial responsibility for her as well. The other cat is very much everyones, he hates us all with equal measure and won't be going anywhere.

I think it’s unfair on the cat particularly at that age it’ll be a big change :(

No not at 14 x

No definitely not. She is being unreasonable to even think it. Plenty of cats to rescue from animal shelters.
I’m guessing she doesn’t really know exactly what time/money/emotion etc goes into pet ownership. the cat isn’t a piece of furniture.

I would certainly not be happy to let them take the family cat and I doubt the cat would be.

Absolutely not. Why would you even contemplate uprooting an elderly cat. Why are some people so stupid?

I second that cats really hate change so I wouldn’t let them take the cat. They could probably adopt an older cat who really needs a home as there’s so many who need homes

It depends on whether you like the cat. If its always been "her" cat and you can take or leave it, maybe. Otherwise no. The cat will hate it and probably try to return to the family home anyway so there's a good chance she will lose it. On balance no.

Has she alway lived at home and it has always been her cat? Sleeps in her bed? Then yes. Otherwise no.

Of course not!!

Of course not! Poor cat. There’s loads of them in rescues, would she fancy adopting an older one or a pair?

I wanted to. My mum asked me not to because the cat was settled. I didn't.

No 'allowing' required.

No way, poor old puss!

1 - is it her cat?
2 - what's the difference in homes? Roads, gardens etc?

I adopt old cats, and some of them are spectacularly unbothered by moving. Two lovely old boys of 15 were immediately swanning around like they owned the place. Of the current two (12 when adopted), the girl was cocky as anything straight away, and the boy hid for weeks.

But now the boy ONLY cares if his favourite person is there.

So it massively depends on the relationship the cats have and the house they're going to.

Oh and elderly?! I mean, I know technically, but my 14 year old sprints round the house and pings up and down fences like an athlete. She's smacking me in the face now.

Cats vary!

No, the cat stays. Studies suggest that cats bond to territories more than their actual carers. Taking away a very elderly cat from its home and caretakers is beyond cruel, and id definitely more for their benefit than the cats.

This. As much as the cat might sit on her lap etc, cats just don't actually care that much about people. They care more about the place and their territory and food. The cat is not going to 'miss' her, and its life won't be worse for her not being there, as long as it is fed.

I know that sounds a bit harsh - I really love cats - but as much as i'd like to believe my cat loves me, I know that it actually loves the sofa and its food, and would get over me very quickly if I weren't here, as long as there was someone around. That is the nature of cats.

My friend recently moved with an elderly cat and it died - just couldn't cope with the shock of it all. It's cruel to uproot the cat just beacuse your daughter wants it.

Cats are little furry Republicans who don’t like change. The cat stays at your house.

Absolutely not, my cat is 15, and there is no way I would put her through an unnecessary move.

No I wouldn't.
At 14, the cat would find it far too stressful.

No fucking way. It's family cat, who lives in family home.

No. She doesn't remove the cat from its home. It's not fair on the cat.

She can visit the cat when she visits you.

Nope. That would, imo, massively stress the cat. Aged 14, so not ideal to move it if it doesn't have to be moved.

There's not enough info here. I would if it was better for the cat