To still have the a babysitter come round if the kids are ill?

[Fufumcgoo]

DH has been ill, I am currently ill, kids likely to be ill by the weekend. Cold/flu type virus.

I have booked a babysitter for myself and DH to get some much needed time to ourselves on Saturday night.

AIBU to still go ahead even if the kids are poorly?

@Fufumcgoo that's unforgivable. The pineapple, I mean.

Why even bother asking OP if you are unhappy with the answers?

I'm guessing that this is'nt going the way that you had anticipated.

Just postpone your date night

My babysitter would (rightly) never come back if I left her with sick kids

To be fair, from your description it isn't clear how ill you are. A cold can describe a very wide range of symptoms. But unless you are all at the very mildest end then YABU - I'd probably judge it on whether the kids would be well enough for school. If not, no babysitter.

You wait until you're all better so you can actually enjoy the time with your DH surely? If I turned up to a babysitting job and found unwell children I'd turn right back round and leave!

I don't think you can leave sick children with a babysitter for the children's sake. Also surely you wouldn't enjoy the evening for worrying about your kids? Even if "just" a cold try or bug, poorly children need the comfort of a parent.

And clearly very witty 🙄

YABVU move it to next weekend or cancel today. If you cancel any later than tomorrow you should pay too

Imo babysitters tend to be there to be an adult in the house while children sleep. If children are unsettled or the babysitter has to put them to bed, and they're ill, don't go.

Kids want their parents when they are ill
I wouldn't leave them.

You've go to wonder what's wrong with some people!

As someone who regularly babysitting for other families I dont think you are being unreasonable at all. Just ask the babysitter.
Maybe offer that she comes later so the kids are in bed.
Personally I would be annoyed if someone cancelled because their child had a cold. That money is part of my income.

On the other hand if it is actually the flu (much more debilitating than a cold) then I would choose not to attend but would expect as much notice as possible.

Just ask the babysitter and let them decide 🤷🏻‍♀️

Im on my way to work for a family that all have colds, I’m not fussed, it’s winter, I’ll undoubtedly get sick at some point from some child and I’m fine with taking the risk today

You give people the choice OP. If your kids get sick, tell your babysitter so they can choose. I certainly wouldn't babysit young kids when they were ill in case they went downhill or fretted for their parents. As a mother I wouldn't have been able to relax.

Personally I'd put the date night off.

I’ve not had anybody to babysit for 16 yrs.
I don’t believe a night out is a right. You would be very unreasonable to get a babysitter if kids possibly have flu or this awful virus going around.
a takeaway and movie at home will have to do this time.

Why can't you reschedule now?

Why wouldn't you want to be with your children when they are poorly?

YABU. We have no family support either. Booked a babysitter the other night for a comedy gig. Youngest was ill and we had to cancel babysitter. She's an older teenager, and her mum is currently immunosuppressed. No way would I have wanted to expose her to illness. My husband went alone. That's part of parenting.

Excuse my stupidity but why not just rebook for another weekend ffs when you’re all well

I was so looking forward to it and having never had childcare before didn't know if I was OK to still go ahead or not.

Surely this is even more of a reason not to?? Obviously it’s stupid to pass on the illness to a babysitter but why would you want to leave your sick children with a stranger when they have never had childcare before just so you can go for lunch?

This has to be a wind up surely? If it’s not I would prepare to abandon your romantic evening fairly early when the baby sitter calls to tell you to come back as the kids are unwell. Although I suspect you may put your phone on silent to enjoy your “ much deserved “ night out 😔

If its only a cold then I would ask the babysitter what she thinks. I've minded plenty of ill children with a cough or running nose... also depending what the children are like on the day. No need for all the horrible comments to OP

I'm not unhappy with the reasonable answers. I'm being rude to those being rude to me

Would you be able to relax knowing they are poorly? I would be looking at my phone every five minutes waiting for the inevitable call or text. They are 'sitting' after all not a nanny. And probably wouldn't want to look after poorly children who, after all, will just want their parents.
Just delay it so you can enjoy it....

Just drop them a message saying you have all had a cold and the children might be a bit germy and groggy.
Would they like to reschedule.