Feeling like he only 36 yr old electively single childfree woman on the planet.

[Balletandbooks]

I posted in Chat too, but seems busier here.

The last of my childfree friends has announced today that she’s expecting a baby.

I’m very happy for her, she’s been trying for a while. But I’m sad for myself, because I feel so completely alone.

I am 36, neurotypical, professional, single and childfree by choice. Probably asexual but I don’t really do labels. I am happy that my life choices are right for me, but sad that each and every one of my friends and contemporaries have chosen a different life. It’s an invalidating and lonely place to be.

I would absolutely LOVE to hear from another 30-something single childfree woman who isn’t actively trying to ‘escape’ my lifestyle.

Is there anyone out there?

ME!! 38, single and staying that way now. Not asexual but very, very rarely feel attraction and had one shit experience too many to bother again now. I've never wanted children. All my friends have children.

So tell me OP. Where the fuck are you?! 🤣

Sister is late thirties, childless and single. She feels like the odd one out all the time but with 2 chronic illnesses it wouldn't be easy and she can think of nothing worse. Always been majority freaked out by pregnancy, labour and never been broody. Kids and marriage is not for everyone and life would be very boring if we all followed the same path.

Same as me. Never wanted children and have no interest in meeting anyone now after too many bad experiences. No family either, just a few friends. Quite happy with it being just me and my cat at home, although I do sometimes worry about how I’d manage if I had a major health problem.

Full disclosure - I have two kids myself, but I seem to know a lot of happily childfree women even though I wouldn't say my social circle is particularly large. Must admit that sometimes I feel very envious of them!

One is happily single, an involved and doting godmother to two children of a friend, but doesn't want any herself. She has a wide circle of friends, both with and without kids, and very active social life.

One met a nice fella fairly late in life, feels she's a bit old for kids and is not that fussed anyway.

Lesiban couple who are lovely with our kids, but don't want to have any themselves. One has a career which allows her to do stints of 6 months - a year in other countries, which they take full advantage of, but would be harder with kids.

One happily with partner, in an exciting creative job in TV, no desire for kids.

There are lots of happily child free women out there, but you might need to put yourself out there to find them.

Hello op 👋🏻

Also 36, single (and want to stay that way) and childfree.
Also asexual.

I’m the only person I know who is any of these things and because of that, it is lonely sometimes.

Also 36, childfree, single. I live in a city with a single childfree friend around the same age, which works well for both of us - companionship without the obligation.
I'm a member of a lively sports club. I'd really recommend LGBTQIA+-friendly sports clubs - lots of single people looking for new friends after losing all their hetero friends to family life 😅 Most my friends are childless but nesting and never put in effort to meet up, so I decided to make new friends.

Fuck what other people think.

Perhaps Mumsnet should consider a People Without Children topic.

I get why childfree women might want to post here--it's the largest majority-female British website. And Childfree By Choice websites and social media pages tend to be unpleasant places where people mostly rant and complain about things and come across as incredibly bitter, and use foul language about children and parents (especially mothers). If I were a reasonably thoughtful person I wouldn't want to spend time on those places.

It's just a question of whether there is actually enough material in a People Without Children topic to be viable and not just deteriorate into a lot of whining, complaining and insults about parents and children.

To be honest, if I had decided to have kids I would be spending my time on travel and hobby boards, not actually discssuing the specific issue of Not Having Children, because once you've got the initial decision out of the way I am not sure there is actually that much to discuss.

decided NOT to have kids.

Need more coffee.

It's just a question of whether there is actually enough material in a People Without Children topic to be viable and not just deteriorate into a lot of whining, complaining and insults about parents and children.

I don't feel we need that tbh. Most threads outside of parenting are non child related it seems.

It probably doesn't help right now but just to let you know that I am a few years older than you but have recently been making some new friends and I actually have no idea who has children or not. It is not such a thing now.

35, also probably asexual, single and childfree by choice! You aren’t alone I promise ☺️

We need to swap friendships groups! At 36 I was the first of my friendship group to have a baby, I was probably assumed to be child free by choice as the subject never came up amongst us.

I feel a bit left out as they do things I now can't, and I obviously won't make them do baby things with me, so I am getting left behind.

Don't lose hope, you just need to find a group like mine as they definitely exist (and probably know lots of others).

You don’t happen to be in the northwest do you? Your username and love of the countryside makes me think we would get on well! 34, child free and single by choice here. Cities are too busy for me and I miss the plants and animals, but it’s hard to meet people in similar positions to me when I essentially live where all the families do.

Snap! I felt the same. Then I got two more and wished I went back to the stage where I only had 1 DC!

If anyone is in the Midlands (West) do feel free to grab me. I should warn you though whilst I'm lovely I swear like a bastard! 😃