Do kids ever play in their bedrooms?

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In our current house, my kid (age 5) never spends any time in their room despite it being nice and cozy. We are moving into a flat that has two floors and their bedroom will be even bigger - 3×6 meters.

As it's a flat and we'll have neighbors below us, I was hoping that DC would start spending a bit more time in their room rather than the living room which would be directly above our neighbors.

Am I being totally unrealistic that kids that age would actually spend time playing with toys in their room? I would happily hangout there with them. My kid loves to play with toys, sometimes drops them, the usual kid stuff but it would be so much easier if they did it in their room on 2nd floor rather than in the main living room. Am I being totally unrealistic? Any tips?

Mine are 6 and 9 and don't play anywhere apart from the living room approximately 5cm away from my face 😤

7yo never unless had a friend over, 10yo never comes out of her bedroom

Do you mostly keep the toys in their room or the living room?

DD is 3 and does. Plays with her toys and books, listens to music and chats to herself.

Mine do but with their siblings. They kind of move around though from room to room up and down. They will either be al together or split off in different groups or solo. I think an only child probably would be more inclined to stay in a 'family space' especially at 5. I have 4 kids 3 to 9 years.

Mine want to play where I am. Who wants to sit alone all day? Maybe put a chair for you in their room and they'll stay there more.

My teenagers like to spend time in their room, they don't like the playroom because it's full of the 10yo's toys (when tidy it's a really cool room designed with them).

6 yo plays in her bedroom a lot. We do join her too though...and occasionally go and fetch/ check something and disappear:)

Put the most enticing toy in there and sit in there with them.

If you have the TV on and that's in the front room I do find they gravitate there.

My 7 year old mostly likes to be where I am, but has recently been spending more time in her room drawing or listening to music. My ears appreciate the break.

My 9 and 7 year olds play mainly in their bedrooms (together). Don’t think they would if they didn’t have each other to play with. 3 year old plays in whatever room I’m in. No one plays in the playroom!

My DD is 5. All her toys are in her room so that’s where she plays, sometimes for ages. Barbie, Playmobil and Lego. We only have board games or educational toys downstairs, as well as lots of books.

My 5 year old plays in his bedroom because that's where we keep all the toys.

DS never did. He was either in the lounge or in my workroom while I worked. His toys were kept in his room but he'd just bring what he wanted or ask for a toy box (IKEA kallax) to be brought into where he was playing.

No, but we don't have toys in there, just books. We have a playroom which DD is in a lot and she does sometimes bring stuff through to living room too. I don't think she'd want to play upstairs away from the action!

My 7yr old son spends all his time playing in his room.

My 4 and 5 year old daughters play in their room a lot together and the 5yr old will happily play in there herself with the tv on or alexa playing music. The 4 year old plays in the lounge if shes on her own.

I wonder whether that's just unrealistic then. Dc has a tendency of jumping up and down excitedly when playing etc and I know the downstairs neighbors have already complained about previous tenants making a noise

This is a thing? My five year old would never play in her room on her own

Might have a lot to do with if your child is naturally extrovert or introvert. Thisispart of their makeup even as babies.

contrary to popular belief introverts are not “shy”- they just recharge and get their energy from internal thoughts, concepts etc. extroverts get their energy from other people. Introverts can literally get overloaded (sensory stimulation) by being around people for extended periods

one of my DS played in his room from a youngish age ( 3 ish), the other DS can’t stand playing on his own even at age of 28 🤣🤣🤣

ime, somewhere between 3-8 years old they’ll spend time on their own- the real issue is for how long!

No, you have to wait until they’re about 15 for that, then you never see them! It’s all or nothing.

My kids all have to play in there bedroom with toys. Once they got a bit older I started refusing to allow toys in my livingroom as I was fed up with tripping over them and the constant mess. They have a cupboard with books in the livingroom.I also have a craft cupboard with play dough, colouring in books etc in the utility but I take stuff in and out of that for them. Everything else toy wise is in there room or garden.

Yes my 4yo old does, ever since she dropped her naps around 3yo, we swapped the naps for quiet time in her bedroom to read or play. Means i get tike to watch my tv in the lounge in peace and quiet. And now she voluntarily goes up to play in there throughout the day as well.

DC is definitely an extrovert and we currently essentially live in the kitchen living room downstairs. I am just concerned that they'll make far too much noise in the new place. But it's by far the best option for us at this point in time.

I think if you sit up there with a book they might get into the habit.
My 7 and 9 year olds do now, they put music on and have a good long play.

The new bedroom is big enough to put in a small sofa bed type thing so you can sit up there while he plays and then in a few years, it would be a good spare bed for sleepovers.