DH santa visit

[Oceanmoonandstars]

My almost 3 Yr old and almost 1 yr old have been booked to see santa today. Oldest boy is so excited and been talking about it all weekend

Baby is a bad sleeper I was up from 12-2 then dh 3-5. He went bk to bed til 10am.

Have the boys dressed in Xmas jumpers etc and dh says he's not going as he's tired. It's been booked since september. I'm tired too but wouldn't dream of not going or taking them.

It's the first time we've done santa as they were both lockdown babies so feels like a special milestone. The venue is a 10 min walk so could be home and back in hour.

Just feel really disappointed. There's a Xmas Market etc and thought I could look at stalls have a festive hot drink etc. Will be harder on my own with 2. Was really looking forward to a family day out as on my own a lot with the dc.

I understand people not feeling great and usually it wouldn't be a problem id let him rest. But just feel really let down for the dc and this (in my eyes) big milestone occasion.

AIBU?

I feel for you OP! My husband works on Saturdays so our time as a family with our 3 y.o. and 8 month old on Sundays is so precious. If my dh opted out of a planned activity because he was "tired", I'd be pretty pissed off- we're parents of young children, that's life. But I'd be really hacked off if he missed something that mattered so much to my 3 year old because he effectively couldn't be arsed. Time for a kick up the bum, I think.

i don’t think he sees the hype and the same milestone occasion you think it is
TBH we sent ours with in laws they were all giddy about the Santa thing we’re not

So what's he doing instead?

On the sofa watching Grand Prix/start of World Cup/golf?

He wants to watch the World Cup opening I'd bet.

I agree with this.

We currently have 2 poorly children and a 4yr old who has just got over the same virus as her sibling so neither of us have slept properly for the last week. Last night DP finished work at 2am and got in to bed at 3.30am. DD5 had come in to me at 3am because she couldnt stop coughing so when he got into bed (after offering to sleep on the sofa or take DD downstairs so i could sleep) i took DD downstairs and we watched tv until she finally went back to sleep at 5. DD4 went in to DP at 5am and was awake for an hour before she went back to sleep then all 3 of them were awake at 7am. DS has asd and doesnt go to sleep until late so i didnt get to sleep until about 1am meaning i had 4hrs broken sleep and DP had 2hrs. I sent DP back to bed until 10 so in total he had 5hrs broken sleep.

He got up and entertained the kids whilst i cooked lunch and he is now getting ready to go to work until 11pm and im looking after the kids. We are both tired but thats the way it is when you have kids do personally i think your DP is being unreasonable and needs to get over himself

I doubt any dm /df with a dc under adult age could hand on heart say they aren't bloody tired every Saturday and Sunday! What an absolute arse he is op.

Tell him to man up and get off his lazy arse,

ConnieTucker:- and I'd be paying close attention to is general standard of parenting too.

................... or what ?.

Oh for Heavens sake what a wimp!

If he doesnt go he’s at home. Alone. Tv. Sofa. Peace.

bliss is what he is thinking.

Selfish he doesn’t want to go

he can go to bed early tonight

Agree he is thinking it’s an opportunity to get the house to himself. Tell him to stop being pathetic but if he won’t budge leave the baby with him (who won’t get anything out of it anyway) and make it a trip just for the 3 yr old (who will probably like it even more if it’s 1:1).

I'd be disappointed that he's opting out of planned family activities last minute, especially if he works lots of weekends.

Is he often like this?

Tell him to have a coffee and get over it