My partner has been becoming more distant after nearly three glorious years and I have given up. He was the kindest man and my soulmate.
He's been going to the pub more and more it's now 2/3 times a week, he's late 50s and goes to a complete and utter dump mixing with the regular seriously heavy drinkers. He stays there from the afternoon until he's steaming, staggering and occasionally nasty mouthed to me. I hate seeing him legless and won't stay around when he's like that. I have my own place.
I am always invited but I don't drink and have no interest in talking to people who are incoherent at 7 pm. If it's a party, family do or somewhere nice I'll go but not to the local dump. He says he only goes because the beer is cheap.
He's stopped working though he really can't afford it.
This has now been going on for several months and no amount of discussion will change it, he refuses to talk about it.
He barely drank for the first three years of our relationship and worked but we were in lockdown for a lot of it. We were like soulmates. We lived together but I've moved out and was seeing him 1 or 2 nights a week, when I said this wasn't good enough I was told I was "too greedy".
It's my fault apparently, he blames our generation gap, I'm not even three years older, I'm boring as I don't drink, I am greedy for not being satisfied with 1 or 2 nights a week.
Am I being unreasonable for thinking he's turned into an ass and preferring to be on my own that put up with this?