To let DS go to school with painted nails?

[weyede1442]

Looking to see what other parents would do

DS is 14, he went to see his friends this afternoon and came home with painted nails which is fine of course and I have no issue with it. But he's said he wants to have them painted on Monday for school. I mentioned school might not allow it to try and change his mind and he said they do.

DP thinks we should just let him but I'm worried in case he gets bullied or changes his mind before he gets there etc.

Should we just let him?

Why not?

I'd check the policy. Are they a clear/natural colour? They may allow natural polish/ French tips or things like that.

It wouldn’t be allowed at my child’s school. They have an incredibly tight dress standards policy. Boys painting their nails is nowt new though. All the emo lads in bands I went to secondary with painted their nails.

Comparing a school not allowing nail polish to Taliban rule is ignorant and disgusting. Be ashamed of yourself.

I'd leave it up to him

If it isn't against the rules, what's the problem?

If it is against the rules, I'd probably still turn a blind eye on the odd occasion. I think a healthy level of rebellion is natural in teenagers..

I would let my son do it. If it is against uniform policy and he gets in trouble for it, that is his problem. I don't think he would be teased, but if he is deciding this he is robust enough to deal with idiots.

Our school has a no nail polish rule...as well as no make up policy
Check the school website ?
If a pupil comes in with nail polish we have remover ready for them to use.

Most schools don't allow nail polish, so I wouldn't be encouraging a boy to ignore school rules.
Those posters who say what difference does it make to education, of course it makes no difference, but why tell a boy to accept the consequences if he decides to break the rules? Why should teachers have to waste time on sanctioning a child who decides the rules don't apply to him?

It depends, if they allow nail polish fine, if they don't not fine.

We had to take my daughter's (still perfect) shellac before school a couple of weeks ago as they are the rules.

If its not against school rules then no problem with him doing it at all.

I also think many posters severely underestimate how tolerant and non judgmental other teens are of something sp trivial whether it's a fashion statement or expression of sensuality.

It's against my children's uniform policy, so just like I tell my daughter to remove her polish on a Sunday night, I would tell my son the same thing.

Why would you though? To be portray yourself as a modern parent virtue signalling? It's a no from me boy or girl.

Agree.
I (female) love painting my nails and used to race home on Fridays to do it but would be sure to take it off on Sunday until I got to Sixth Form when I had that right. I am now in my 30s and always paint my nails.

I'd guess that most schools won't allow nail polish on either sex.

At 14 I would honestly leave it up to him and not be getting involved.

Never worked in a school where nail polish is allowed. I sent a student to remove hers this week.

Meh. Unless it is against the school rules, it is a complete non-issue. Funnily enough I was just in my gym's sauna today and there was a really blokey guy with his toenails varnished. It felt like nothing at all. Maybe his daughter did it and he kept it on for the lols, maybe he thought it looked lovely, maybe this, maybe that. Nobody cared.

Agreed

It baffles me that anyone thinks that uniform rules are supposed to have an impact on learning

I thought only sad faced chavvy type parents in newspapers every September said that after their child was sent home for ignoring the rules at the stat of the new school year.

Without knowing what te school rules are it isn't possible to say. It's most likely not a question anyway as most school seem to not allow it.

Nail varnish often isn't allowed, so get him to check.

And leave him to it. He knows what the range of likely reactions are (probably better than parents do) so I'd let him get on with it.

Also I had a policy of never making a big deal from anything that comes off. Telling DDC that if they got into trouble at school by breaches of uniform rules, it was their own silly fault

Why on earth would a school object to nail varnish? (On anyone?) Genuine question..

No one here can say because we don't know the school's policy on make up. Just check their uniform rules on their website.

Virtue signalling? What's "virtue signalling" about thinking nail polish is OK? At 14 he's old enough to make his choice and face the consequences if it's against school policy.