Hi all,
so I was laying in bed this morning with partner still asleep and his phone was in between us. I had that all too familiar women’s intuition that something wasn’t quite right so I did look. I was only looking at one persons conversation who I have pointed out to him clearly fancies him many times and
she had actually text him last night that she was popping into his work today (hospitality) saying “you get to see my face tomorrow ☺️“.
Now he didn’t respond to her flirtation in this text however he had told about the one little tiff we have had a few weeks back when I found out she was present at drinks he was at that he hadn’t told me about. I told him at the time I already felt uncomfortable about her and it was the fact he didn’t tell me which made me more anxious and not that she was there. Anyway he told her about this conversation in which she called me crazy and while he said he still loved me to her, he didn’t exactly shut her down.
Im very uncomfortable with her flirting and feeling comfortable enough to Bad mouth me to my own partner but AIBU to think it’s not enough that he doesn’t engage and this friendship in between the times she does this need to start being distanced? I feel very certain she is wanting to move in on him but I think he needs to actively shut it down rather than avoid it out of respect for me.